Monday, September 30, 2019
What's the secret code?
I sometimes wonder if there is a hidden code when it comes to meeting people on line. Like fishing rods setup and left in the water, I do leave my profile up as bait, well I am trying to catch me a man, lol. I have made a couple of friends online over the years but as far as actually meeting that special someone, I have given up hope regarding online. I feel Debra is correct in that I will meet someone through a club etc.
Every now and then, I get a message that seems authentic, as opposed to a caveman online version of a mating grunt. The message will say something friendly or positive like, "hi there, I liked your profile, would you be interested in grabbing a coffee or a drink sometime?" Happy at the prospect of making a new friend, boyfriend, friend with benefits or whatever, I reply back with something like, "hello back, I liked your profile as well, coffee sounds great, let me know what day works for you and where?"
Then I wait... then I wait... then I wait... nothing... crickets. Sometimes I send a little reminder but in a polite way like, "Pierre's cafe has some of the best coffee in the city". Then I wait... then I wait... then I wait.... nothing. By the third day I know that they are never going to answer. Some sites I can see they have been on since we last spoke and they are purposely avoiding me.
I don't get it, is there a hidden code that I don't know about? Have I said the wrong thing? Is there a secret language I'm supposed to be using, Gayanese? Homoslavia? Please tell me because I'm confused.. as this has happened four times to me in the last week. Maybe when they say let's go for coffee, I'm supposed to answer with, "okay sure, let's handcuff each other in a bathtub of green jello while wearing leather harnesses"! I expect these responses from the profiles that seem a little too direct and slightly cold but it's surprising (and slightly hurtful) from the ones that seem thoughtful and well written. I'm starting to think one of the responses I am supposed to give is, "no, please don't confuse me, I'm a straight guy" that seems to get their interest.
Password? Code? Hidden meaning? I don't know, it just seems that I'm answering in english but it must get translated somehow into "run away from this guy"!