Wednesday, August 15, 2018
Lust is Blind.
Have you ever thought about a past crush that you were totally taken with years ago, only to have your fantasy ruined when you looked back at that person? I was thinking about tv and movie stars that I was totally in love with when I was a teenager or even as a boy, with the internet nowadays, we can look back at old shows and movies to check out our crushes. However I am often surprised by the results, I remember vaguely that person "X" was the most handsome person I ever saw at the time, that their appearance would send jolts through my stomach. Then when I see them again after many years, I am startled by how ordinary many seem to me now.
I think because of changing times our view of what is or isn't attractive also changes, hair styles, clothes, hairy chest, smooth chest, mustache, clean shaven. However some guys have a classic look to them, no matter how many years from now we look back they will still be handsome. Not all guys however and sometimes I find myself wondering what it was that made me think a certain person was the hottest thing on two legs.
Often it is the same situation when I look back over old year book photos. I seek out the guys I had the biggest crush on at the time. In my mind they have perfect hair, perfect smile, cool way of dressing and hot looks to complete the package. Again, when I look over the photos, I see these awkward, pimple faced kids that have big teeth or messed up hair, there are no models in my year books. My crushing on them blinded me, I didn't see that they were just some lanky kids exactly like me. Now that the spell has long worn off, I see them for who they really are. The other interesting thing is to see that some of my other friends were actually really cute guys. They weren't that high up the teenage coolness ladder so I didn't see how attractive they actually were, unfortunately.
It's funny how our emotions and inexperience can cloud our judgment about a person when we are attracted to them, they seem perfect in every way, when that attraction is gone, we wonder what was the attraction in the first place.