Wednesday, August 15, 2018

Lust is Blind.


 Have you ever thought about a past crush that you were totally taken with years ago, only to have your fantasy ruined when you looked back at that person? I was thinking about tv and movie stars that I was totally in love with when I was a teenager or even as a boy, with the internet nowadays, we can look back at old shows and movies to check out our crushes. However I am often surprised by the results, I remember vaguely that person "X" was the most handsome person I ever saw at the time, that their appearance would send jolts through my stomach. Then when I see them again after many years, I am startled by how ordinary many seem to me now.

I think because of changing times our view of what is or isn't attractive also changes, hair styles, clothes, hairy chest, smooth chest, mustache, clean shaven. However some guys have a classic look to them, no matter how many years from now we look back they will still be handsome. Not all guys however and sometimes I find myself wondering what it was that made me think a certain person was the hottest thing on two legs.

 Often it is the same situation when I look back over old year book photos. I seek out the guys I had the biggest crush on at the time. In my mind they have perfect hair, perfect smile, cool way of dressing and hot looks to complete the package. Again, when I look over the photos, I see these awkward, pimple faced kids that have big teeth or messed up hair, there are no models in my year books. My crushing on them blinded me, I didn't see that they were just some lanky kids exactly like me. Now that the spell has long worn off, I see them for who they really are. The other interesting thing is to see that some of my other friends were actually really cute guys. They weren't that high up the teenage coolness ladder so I didn't see how attractive they actually were, unfortunately.

 It's funny how our emotions and inexperience can cloud our judgment about a person when we are attracted to them, they seem perfect in every way, when that attraction is gone, we wonder what was the attraction in the first place.

14 comments:

mistress maddie said...

The only past crush I had and still looks hot is Mario Lopez. He could still bend me over. But Ricky Schroder ...what was I thinking.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Mario hasn't changed but I find he feels phony to me like a Ken doll. Ricky actually got cuter when he became gritty and played a cop, I don't know what happened to him after that. I remember being totally in love with Jon Erik Hexum, I remember thinking no guy in the world was better looking than him, now when I look back, I don't see it.

Old Lurker said...

I think Dr Snuggles has aged pretty well.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-7_WRSEwuk0

Sooo-this-is-me said...

OL, remember the nice nurse said that you must take your medication every day. On a scale of one to ten, how closely do you resemble Dr Snuggles?

Richard said...

It makes one wonder what people think of how we have aged or changed. I'm not sure I want to know.

Deedles said...

CLINT WALKER!!!

Mike said...

Growing up without tv, I had to look up all these names. Schroeder is definitely out of the running -- who converts to Mormonism? Maybe my standards are too low but Jon Erik Hexum looks pretty hot to me, even if he wasn't the brightest bulb. Tell me something positive about Clint Walker or I'll have to conclude that there is an inverse relationship between looks and smarts.

Deedles said...

@Mike- We are talking about crushes here. I saw Night of the Grizzly when I was about eleven or so. That man's six foot six frame, gorgeous body and deep voice had my little tween heart jumping to beat the band! From all reports, he seems to have been a very nice man, also. Three marriages that lasted almost twenty years each. He died in May of this year. He was only ninety! In the movie Send Me No Flowers, I liked him a whole lot more than Rock Hudson. Was he smart? I dunno, I don't care.

Mike said...

So, Deedles, its safe to,say you didn't lose your crush! That's a good thing. According to Wikipedia he fell off a ski lift and onto his ski pole, which pierced his heat. Ouch!

Old Lurker said...

I don't like the medications! They make me feel funny.

Well, let's see. I'm balding, and rotund, and getting on in years. But I am not a friend to the animal world, and I can't invent marvelous machines, and I don't have a houselady who does all the cooking and cleaning and nothing else with her life, and I don't have a rocketship or an umbrella/pogo stick, and I especially don't have a badger named Dennis who wears only a pair of overalls and is described as a "very good friend". Also I am not voiced by Peter Ustinov, whose gorgeous accent and timbre makes me go weak at the knees. So I am not much like Dr Snuggles at all.

Deedles said...

Mike, I know right? He lived close to fifty years after that. That must've been some heart! I'm not obsessive!

mistress maddie said...

I never heard of clit walker.

Deedles said...

Maddie, sugar, it's Clint Walker, with an n. Clit Walker sounds like someone who'd made a whole different genre of movies :) It's okay. My sons have probably never heard of him either. Look him up. He was never a big star but he was so worth looking over, up, down and around.

anne marie in philly said...

it sure is! ringo starr, charlie watts, max weinberg, phil collins...we all get old and ugly.