Friday, February 8, 2008

When It Rains, It Pours

When I was younger and first moved to the city, I had a female friend who sometimes ran into a dry spell with her dating men. Usually after a while she would get asked out by a nice guy, only to turn around and be asked out by one or more other men in a few days time. She had this saying "when it rains, it pours" meaning having no one and suddenly too many to choose from.
Today I went out for my first coffee date, with guy number two, I will call him Tom. I was laughing at myself all cocky and confident on my way to meet him, checking myself out in the mirrors at the mall. I was a bit nervous but I am starting to get used to putting myself into uncomfortable situations lately. We met and wow, he is a really good looking guy as well. A little taller than me, dark hair and eyes so blue you could swim in them. I could not help think, I wish we met when he was twenty five or so, he must have been DAAANG hot then because he certainly is good looking now. He was really down to earth as well, friendly and we hit it off. He is very straight acting/looking, which is a huge turn on for me. We walked around town a bit, went to a coffee shop talked there for a while. He drove me home since I had taken a bus, I invited him up because I felt I could trust him. He stayed a couple of hours and we talked a lot as he is also dealing with accepting his attraction to men. It went well, we made plans to meet next week and then it was over, like I do this all the time!

After I went to check my emails and there was a sweet one from guy number one, Dave was apologizing that he would be unable to take me to Montreal this weekend. I told him not to worry, he then called and asked me if I would like to go out with him to dinner, movie and The Lookout bar Saturday evening, I thought about it, for like a fraction of a second and said yes as calmly as I could without jumping through the phone! I am excited about the Lookout, it is one of the more famous gay bars here and a very mixed crowd, I am hoping to bump into one of my lesbian friends to show off my new man!

There is even actually a guy number three, I don't get that same feeling from his emails and so I will end it with him as I want to see where this goes with Dave and Tom. I was thinking how odd, I was thinking of my friend saying when it rains it pours. The chances that I find these guys all at once, I guess my nude picture worked, no just kidding, that would never happen! Sitting there at my computer thinking how funny this is, an email came in from a guy that had expressed interest in meeting me last week. I had been interested in meeting this guy but he never replied back after the first contact emails, so I assumed he was not interested. He said sorry for not emailing for so long (a week) but that he was really busy and even now he was so busy that he was letting me know there would be another email coming. Yeah well DELETE!

So I told Dave and Tom about each other and my situation. They both seemed fine with that for now, so why do I feel like I am cheating! They are so different from each other, Dave is that sweet, funny guy that a person would think of as your life partner material, he even asked me if I would get married to another man, I said yes and he was quite happy with that answer. On the other hand, Tom has that sexual energy about him, he is respectful but I feel a bit of that wild boy from him and honestly it is a bit exciting. This is not fair, nothing and now two good guys! This is hard work, I mean I am not used to being in any kind of relationship so I have to appear not that interested without making them think I don't care at all. You know I don't want to seem really needy and scare them off. Oh wow, gay life here I come!

19 comments:

S said...

"... I invited him up because I felt I could trust him. He stayed a couple of hours..."

Ummm, for some reason I think you're leaving out a part of the story.

danny/ink2metal said...

well it's time you let yourself get wet. just be sure to wear the rubbers, um, slickers, er, whatever you canucks call raingear. LOL

seriously, steven, i think it's really great that you're showing these guys respect by being totally honest about your situation; that you are dating both of them.

you shouldn't waste time playing those cliche dating games and be sure not to put up with anyone who does. you are too good for that.

r. said...

Busy body you, and it's only January! Great way to start the year eh? Ocrap, it's February! Where have I been!?!

Tom, Dick and Harry, let the dating game begin! ehehe! Have a great weekend Steven.

john said...

Wow, you're going to need an umbrella!!

Wayne said...

OMG! Steven! Just do it with one of them! Your gay.... they're gay...Just do it! Enjoy the sex! Worry later if they're boyfriend material! My God! I took Craig home the first time I met him, and now we've been together 31 years!

Kevin said...

Stop hogging the men! :-)

Java said...

Good for you! How exciting! I'm thrilled for you, Steven.

Evol Kween said...

Hello! New to your blog, and very intrigued. Hope you're enjoying the rain!

W said...

Make hay while the sun shines, sweety.

I hope you enjoy much the company of these fine blokes.

Bill said...

What fun!

Ditto Danny.

Steve said...

Good to see you are enjoying life these days. Enjoy it, stop worrying; Just be honest to these guys and to yourself. Then everything will work out ok, right?

psyther said...

Really glad to hear things are on the upswing, dude. It's true...when it rains, it pours. A lot of your excitement must be coming from the fact that you are dating as a gay man...being true to who you are. You sound like a school girl, no offense, haha...and not to burst your bubble or rain on your parade, just remember that it is just dating. Neither of the 3 may be the right one for you in the long run if that is what you are looking for out there. I see too many of my friends go on a few good dates and falsely believe that a good date = partner for life. Take it for what it is and continue to have a good time! However, one of them may turn out to be someone special to you and you should be ready to deal with it should it arise. I just don't want you to live in falsified hopes and dreams...cheers, dude :)

Anthony said...

LOL, spoilt for choice you are.

Enjoy :). I will watch this space with interest.

You have been honest with both guys. More than that one cannot ask for. Good for you.

Birdie said...

This is so cool, to be "along" with you as you discover your new life. I love that I can be a witness to your journey and your insights. Thank you so much for your willingness to share with all of us.

Birdie

TWISI said...

DAYUM. you are Mr. Popular.... congrats on all the dates. have fun!

Jen said...

I'm so glad it's raining for you. Thank you for letting others in on your journey.

Steven said...

I had to laugh at what John said to you about needing an umbrella. So good to hear of this news. And I am so like you on those feelings of not wanting to be seeing two men at the same time. Just remember to take things slowly. Doing the happy dance for you. :-)

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Thanks for the support guys, I am having fun with this and I want to share it with you guys 'my friends' because even though we never met you guys and girls feel like my buddies!
Kevin, Evol and Jen, I always like to say welcome to new people that drop by my blog, I have also checked out your blogs, thanks for the comments.

Steven

K said...

Fucking Stud!

Thats all I have to say....