Thursday, October 10, 2019

Thumbs up, thumbs down.


 I have been more proactive lately in trying to meet people, I mean really it's not fair to expect guys to come to me if I'm not doing the same. Recently I contacted a guy that looked like a lot of fun to be with. He said he was looking for a boyfriend and also friends. His picture was cute, not Hollywood cute but cuddly guy cute, it shows him with a big smile on his face and two thumbs up. As well his profile was comical, almost smarty pants-ish, like someone else you all know. He wrote about meeting friends, going out and just enjoying life. I thought that is exactly the type of person I should meet.

 When I contacted him, right away I noticed the complete lack of humor. In fact there seemed to be none of the guy in the profile. Eventually I found out that he suffered a terrible event in his life that has left him partially disabled. He tells me about being lonely all the time, about being house bound unless I drive him places, about feeling abandoned by his friends because they are busy a lot of the time... and of course he is the one guy that wants to meet right away.

 I'm not here to rescue everyone, something similar happened with a relative recently that I was not closed to, (I have a large family). My life already consists of doctors, hospitals, appointments, illness, medications, sadness, tears and on and on. I'm not talking on another case, I wanted to find a distraction from that part of life. I just wanted some friends that I could say, "hey let's grab some dinner, movie, drinks" and not become someone else's caretaker. Maybe this guy is a really sweet guy but he has to look for someone else to attach himself to because lately I feel my cup is full when it comes to problems. I am not heartless, I have empathy for the guy I really do but I also give him a thumbs down for the completely misleading profile.

13 comments:

Dave R said...

Everybody needs a friend, even whining complaining people, however, sometimes being an acquaintance is much better... a lot less strings.

Old Lurker said...

Sounds as if he is not Mr Right (or even Mr Wright) but I feel for him too. Did you feel any connection with him on a platonic level? If so he might become part of that gay posse you are always pining over. Otherwise I guess we all move on.

(And people wonder why I am not on the apps.)

Deedles said...

Sweetie, you've already had/have your fill of the Brussels sprouts and zucchini of life. It's time for some dessert! A zucchini should never try to pass as an éclair! I think this low carb diet is making me weird (shut up, Steven).
Seriously, heh, you know what you want, need and can handle.

John Going Gently said...

I've met a guy on line and he's going to be a lifelong friend
So keep looking xx

Bob said...

Just be a friend, and nothing more.We could all use more friends.

Sixpence Notthewiser said...

Friend always come handy...
Just saying...

XoXo

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Dave yes, I will see, I jumped too quick I think.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Lurker, I thought it was because you were banned from all apps! :D

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Deedles, I was afraid he was those frozen carrots that are like rubber when you try to eat them.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

John, yes that could happen, see following post.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Bob, I agree.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Steve agree with sixpence, friend always handy.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Maddie, oh dear... looks like another job for Super Spaminator! I took down that Mumbai tramp now stand back for the destroying of the dirty skank!