Thursday, October 10, 2019

Thumbs up, thumbs down.


 I have been more proactive lately in trying to meet people, I mean really it's not fair to expect guys to come to me if I'm not doing the same. Recently I contacted a guy that looked like a lot of fun to be with. He said he was looking for a boyfriend and also friends. His picture was cute, not Hollywood cute but cuddly guy cute, it shows him with a big smile on his face and two thumbs up. As well his profile was comical, almost smarty pants-ish, like someone else you all know. He wrote about meeting friends, going out and just enjoying life. I thought that is exactly the type of person I should meet.

 When I contacted him, right away I noticed the complete lack of humor. In fact there seemed to be none of the guy in the profile. Eventually I found out that he suffered a terrible event in his life that has left him partially disabled. He tells me about being lonely all the time, about being house bound unless I drive him places, about feeling abandoned by his friends because they are busy a lot of the time... and of course he is the one guy that wants to meet right away.

 I'm not here to rescue everyone, something similar happened with a relative recently that I was not closed to, (I have a large family). My life already consists of doctors, hospitals, appointments, illness, medications, sadness, tears and on and on. I'm not talking on another case, I wanted to find a distraction from that part of life. I just wanted some friends that I could say, "hey let's grab some dinner, movie, drinks" and not become someone else's caretaker. Maybe this guy is a really sweet guy but he has to look for someone else to attach himself to because lately I feel my cup is full when it comes to problems. I am not heartless, I have empathy for the guy I really do but I also give him a thumbs down for the completely misleading profile.

14 comments:

Dave R said...

Everybody needs a friend, even whining complaining people, however, sometimes being an acquaintance is much better... a lot less strings.

Old Lurker said...

Sounds as if he is not Mr Right (or even Mr Wright) but I feel for him too. Did you feel any connection with him on a platonic level? If so he might become part of that gay posse you are always pining over. Otherwise I guess we all move on.

(And people wonder why I am not on the apps.)

Deedles said...

Sweetie, you've already had/have your fill of the Brussels sprouts and zucchini of life. It's time for some dessert! A zucchini should never try to pass as an éclair! I think this low carb diet is making me weird (shut up, Steven).
Seriously, heh, you know what you want, need and can handle.

John Going Gently said...

I've met a guy on line and he's going to be a lifelong friend
So keep looking xx

Bob said...

Just be a friend, and nothing more.We could all use more friends.

Sixpence Notthewiser said...

Friend always come handy...
Just saying...

XoXo

mistress maddie said...

Well, whatever you do don't take any advice from Angeline, she apparently has herpes, that slut!

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Dave yes, I will see, I jumped too quick I think.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Lurker, I thought it was because you were banned from all apps! :D

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Deedles, I was afraid he was those frozen carrots that are like rubber when you try to eat them.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

John, yes that could happen, see following post.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Bob, I agree.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Steve agree with sixpence, friend always handy.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Maddie, oh dear... looks like another job for Super Spaminator! I took down that Mumbai tramp now stand back for the destroying of the dirty skank!