Monday, January 7, 2019

Don't tell me what I know!


 Sometimes I stumble into the non politically correct stereotypes regarding the gay world. In the past I have tried to talk about the differences between gay and straight men, how they carry themselves, body movements, style and voice. Usually that is a hornets nest and similar to a child poking the hornets nest with a stick, people come flying from every angle, wringing their hands saying, "no, no you're wrong, those are just stereotypes".

 Today one of my closest friends sent me a picture of her children, nephews and nieces. I have watched some of them grow up, many I haven't seen since they were little. A great looking bunch of young men and women, now on their way into adulthood. Happy at how they have turned out but the photo was also causing a little sadness in me to see them becoming grown-ups.

 I know that one of her nephews is gay and I knew just by looking at the photo, I would be able to pick him out. One young guy had really good style, (clue one), he had a really good haircut (clue two), slightly avant-garde jewelry on (clue three) he was in nice shape, as in he worked out and not for just health reasons (clue four) and there was something about the way he was standing. I picked the correct one out. Also there was another guy there and I was thinking he looked like a team player as well. Later I would find out that he was the boyfriend.

 I have learned not to doubt my gaydar, even if they are married with five kids, sometimes years later I find out that they are gay. I know, I know, I know not everyone fits the stereotype but there are signals, signs and special connections that can be seen and felt between two members of the LGBTQ community, otherwise we would have never found each other in the bad old days. Lucky guy, starting out in life with a huge family behind him, boyfriend, career on the horizon and he is really  cute too. Still however; no matter what people say about stereotypes, I was able to pick him out in a split second :p

 Interesting fact, we may be hearing from him in the future.

14 comments:

Michael said...

Great post. I don't know how my gaydar is, but I don't think it works so well...

Sixpence Notthewiser said...

I can sometimes spot the gay child right away. My gaydar has failed me sometimes, though, and I have not been able to tell until the man is practically kissing me. I know.

XoXo

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Michael it probably works a lot better than you think. Anyway you learn to use it.

Bob Slatten said...

I can sometimes tell, but when people ask me if so-and-so is gay because I;m gay and so I should know, I always reply, "I dunno, I haven't fucked him yet."
That generally halts that conversation.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Sixpence, that's another example of being able to tell, I don't care what people say, any time I have had my tongue in another guy's mouth, they usually turn out gay. Oh the jokes my boyfriend and I used to say similar to that when we were, hmmm, umm, you know the popsicle game. :)

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Bob, good one lol!
Even if I knew I would say that I didn't know.

Deedles said...

Well, stereotypes had to have come from somewhere originally. Sort of like myths.

mistress maddie said...

My gaydar is pretty darn sharp I think and most times I'm correct. But in the few cases I can't tell, I just ask if I can give them a blowjob...and that generally gets me the answer!!!!!

Old Lurker said...

We might be hearing from him?! He's not "Adam", is he?

My gaydar is either non-functional or not installed. Half the time I think you are straight.

Debra She Who Seeks said...

Gaydar is real, no doubt about it. Mine is pretty good most of the time.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Deedles, some stereotypes are real, just that they don't apply to everyone in a certain group. Some of my friends might tease me about opening a hair salon, yet walk into a hair salon and see the stereotypes in action.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Maddie, that picture of you with make-up sets my gaydar off on red alert! Your question is flawed now because it's in fashion for open minded straight guys to receive bjs from "the gays". ;)

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Old Lurker, yes you ding bat I'm going to be dating my close friend's young pre-adult nephew who has a boyfriend... because what could go wrong there? You need to stop trying to make more there than is there. Lol
Me straight... shhh! I warned you before, this blog has a lot more readers since I started pretending that I am gay. It's very in these days, well except for Russia, parts of Africa and the middle east.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Debra I knew you were gay as soon as you said you're a lesbian and have a partner. I am very observant like that.