Friday, May 25, 2018

Smooth moves from the Dating King.


I was not aware that I had left my phone open to a dating site that I was trying out. I heard the beep meaning a message came through. I froze because I had made contact with one guy who seemed normal. I had hoped to just email back and forth with him a little at first. However now I was trapped, he would be able to see that I was on and also that I had read his message. Doing anything other than answering would spell disaster towards meeting him.

 I came on and started emailing back and forth with him, he seemed nice. We were exchanging emails when he suggested that we should meet some time over the weekend. I panicked, what do I do, what do I say, what if he hates me! This is all very foreign to me, so I said "no" because I had family stuff to do over the weekend (which was a complete lie and I actually said "stuff"). Suddenly I dropped the phone, wet myself and crawled under the bed to suck my thumb in the fetal position. I am such an idiot.

 I decided to try and turn this blunder around, I confessed to not being hip to online dating. He said that he understood, we chatted a little more and he said he had to go. I guess I have signed up for the waiting game, if he makes a second attempt I can't shut him down again, I know that would be the end. Maybe I will become a monk, like all the other gay men with issues.







16 comments:

Deedles said...

Wow. Since we both seem to be occupying the same pod personality wise, there's not much I can say to cheer you up. I already knew my now husband before I started dating him, so I don't know how any of this works. It sounds very hard. Be yourself and be honest. You have a lot to offer once you peel back some of those layers of yours. Now's the time to unpack one of those grandma hugs I sent you.

Mike said...

Call him back and tell him you panicked. He already knows you're charming and cute. Now he'll know you're sincere and human.

I'm with Deedles here, I don't know anything about dating in the modern world. But 'waiting game' never worked for me.

John Going Gently said...

You need to do a date and get over the anticipation

rjjs8878 said...

I was the same way when I first started dating after my ex and I split. The first one is scary but it gets easier.

Mike said...

Rj, I often wonder what I'd do if I got pushed back in the dating pool. I'm very shy and lack confidence. I'd probably develop stress only an interest in grabbing a coffee at Starbucks.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

I used one last night and I feel much better! Some of my friends did the same thing, married their high school sweetheart and they are still happy together. I wish I could have done the gay version of that but it's rare.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Mike one thing I have become good at is turning around a bad situation. Well I confess that is because it's usually me that makes the mess up in the first place. ;)

Sooo-this-is-me said...

John, I agree and that's what I have done.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

RJ, I was hoping someone was going to say that lol!

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Mike, you are like me, you think nobody would want you but there would be guys that would see you are a quality person and snap you up.

Mike said...

Steven, With google and urban dictionary I could handle conversation at Starbucks, it's the other side of dating that scares me. It's hard to tell from what you've written, did you go out on a date? Did you get a gold star?

Ur-spo said...

Pishposh you need practice practice practice

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Mike no date yet but we are talking and he seems nice enough.

Deedles said...

So, you're talking. That is an excellent way to start! They don't call me Captain Obvious for nothing. Actually, they (whoever they are) don't call me anything, but that's beside the point. Let that personality of yours flow and you will gain, at the very least, a friend. As far as pessimists go, I have a lot of optimism :)

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Dr Spo, who is this Pishposh and what does he need to practice? ;)

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Ok Deedles Obvious!