Saturday, May 16, 2020

Enter Mr X.


 I guess I should start filling in the blanks regarding Mr X, soon it will have been three months. Unfortunately life went crazy and I missed blogging about meeting him. Basically it was the way people kept telling me a relationship would happen. The moment I wasn't even thinking about finding someone, was the moment I met someone.

 February 24, the weather had been perfect. I had decided to try bowling with an all gay group. I was more worried about looking stupid as I never bowled before than thinking about finding someone. I wanted to socialize with other gay men, maybe someone had a single friend.

 Slightly nervous I went in, I was a little early and there were only two guys so far. My gaydar worked for once and I asked if they were with the LGBTQ group. One guy was around my age, I found him friendly and cute as well, the other man was much older but still very handsome. The younger man told me to play on his team and soon a group of guys showed up.

  I had a great time, I did really well that night for a first try. They were a really relaxed down to earth group. Nice guys, there were no innuendo or sexual jokes. Sometimes that gets annoying in the wrong setting. I was really getting along with a couple of guys my age, I was picturing them as teenagers and thinking how it would have been nice to know each other when we were in high school. Life would have been so much better with the support of friends. The first guy I met, had a very expressive face, he would make all these cute expressions every time he did well or struck out. He was making me laugh and very calmly giving me advice on how to bowl. I definitely wanted to become friends with him and another guy with blue, blue eyes, both men I found very attractive. We seemed to hit it off, they asked me to join them after for coffee and treats at a bakery up the street. I found that sweet because when they first asked me if I wanted to go out with them after... I assumed a bar, my own stereotypes coming into play.

 I was trying to figure out where everyone fit in the group, regarding couples or single men. Mr blue eyes said he had a husband, a few of the other guys did as well. The first guy I had met, was telling blue eyes that he was ready to date again, that he had been single for over a year. Later when we arrived at the bakery, this guy seemed to linger for a second, as if waiting to choose his seat so as to be sitting next to me. He was really easy to talk to.

 I have to take a moment and pat myself on the back. Most of the guys were impressed that I would just show up alone and start making friends, honestly I didn't have a choice, either I do it alone or probably never. However instead of the wall flower that I usually am, I was very outgoing that night, I kept wonder where the heck this was coming from. After a while, I suddenly noticed that the guy who waited to sit down beside me, was really nervous talking to me, he kept apologizing for talking so much and so fast. I thought hmmm... message received.. game on! I became slightly aroused, yes he would become my Mr X.

 After when it was time to go, as luck would have it, the two of us had parked our cars far from the others so we had to walk together. We were having a good chat and when we reached our cars we kept on talking and talking, neither of us wanted to go. I was scrambling inside, what do I do, how do I move this forward, story of my life I'm letting this moment slip away. Then no lie... I wondered what you guys would tell me to do. In my head I heard, "you could ask him for his number".

 Trying to sound like Mr Smooth guy I said, "I'm not trying to hit on you or anything but why don't I get your number and we could hang out, maybe meet up for drinks or a coffee sometime". Like teenagers we pulled out our phones and dialed each other. I said that I had to get going. I went to shake his hand and said it was nice meeting him. He laughed and said it was okay to hug him, as I was letting him go, I said,"plus you're so frigging good looking"... that really caught him off guard. He joked that it's not fair to say that and leave, slightly embarrassed he thanked me.

 Later on he often told me that he loved the "I'm not hitting on you" remark, (I totally was lol) and the "you're frigging good looking" remark because it's nice to get a compliment but also because he realized then that I liked him as well.

 There you have it folks, the night that I met Mr X. I'm going to try to fill in a few more details, mostly for my own memories. It was a beautiful winter evening, a perfect setting. Almost a scene out of a gay Hallmark movie, lol but you know that's exactly the type of first meeting I wanted.

34 comments:

Jimmy said...

I'm so glad the people who love you here played a part (so you think). But YOU put yourself out there. As of late, you are a different person on your bloggy. And to think, Lurkie is back!

Christina said...

That a just wonderful! Hurrah!
I wish you lots of joy and happiness. You deserve it. Xx

Cali-Boi said...

That is great news! I must have missed this? Enjoy and don't rush it. And don't ever use Hallmark meeting in a sentence. Those movies want to make me barf. I started dating too dude. I don't know how this will work, I still have strong urges to see other guys too. We are not all cut and formed for relationships I think. Thats why I feel a kin-ship with Maddie and Sixpense I think.

I hope this goes well, I know it's what you wanted dude!!!! he sounds cool. So how's the sex then? You did test drive didn't you?

Dave R said...

Congratulations. Thirty years from now, when you're thinking of writing your biography, might I suggest the title "How to get a Perfect Score when Bowling for Men."

Bob said...

The best things in life happen when you least expect them.

anne marie in philly said...

I like dave's suggestion. and bob's statement. enjoy your time with mister x.

"Tommy" said...

It was my privilege to read this post, from reading your blog, I know its been a long time in your desire to meet a person you can have as a true, good friend.

Yes, I agree with Cali-Boi... don't rush it, let it evolve naturally.

RJ said...

I am so happy you. You wrote a beautiful remembrance of the events, which, will make you smile and possibly tear up when you read it the future.

Debra She Who Seeks said...

As they say in fanfic jargon, what a lovely meet-cute! I'm happy for you!

Anitia Moorecock said...

wait a minute. bowling is still around? the last people to mention it were my grandparents.

Ur-spo said...

That sounds a splendid start. Good for you!

1st Man said...

That's so awesome. What a great story and yes, SO true that sometimes you meet someone when you aren't expecting it. Those are the best moments.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Jimmy, thank you, I didn't want to let you down!
I bet you that Lurker never left, he was probably lurking.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Christina thank you so much, you are a very kind person.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Cali Boi, thank you buddy. Yes you missed the good news, hahaha! I really believe people need to follow the path that is meant for them. This is my path (hopefully) but I saw the other side and I understand it now. If you're meant to live a different life there is nothing wrong with that as long as you are happy with what you choose. I went to a few parties that I didn't really want to blog about, I don't regret that. ;)
We actually waited a long time, it felt more romantic to me but yes... I did a test run lol.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Dave, that's a perfect title lol! I don't think anyone would read my biography, I know that I wouldn't, too boring!

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Bob, people kept saying that to me and I used to get annoyed, turns out they were correct!

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Anne Marie, thank you, yes I can hardly wait to see him again!

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Tommy, thank you and yes it's something that I have been searching for. Unfortunately covid has made sure I'm not rushing anything.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Richard, yes hopefully I will look back fondly and even more importantly I will look back but still happily be with Mr X.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Debra, thank you and I really worry about you and fanfic! Unless you put your art skills to drawing pictures of Captain America and the Winter Soldier kissing... and more.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Anitia, what.. why you.. little.. good thing there is social distancing, hard to smack your bottom! High school kids go! :p
Are you bored in lockdown? I worry that "someone" is becoming a recluse... or an evil witch, tomorrow is Monday so it could be both! ;D

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Why thank you Dr Spo, it was splendid to be honest! :)

Sooo-this-is-me said...

First Man, thank you, yes I was very surprised driving home that night.

Anitia Moorecock said...

are you kidding? she is so drunk she doesn't know what day of the week it is...but worry she is getting very dark. never bored here. ive been work all this time. banking never stopped. luckily.

bowling.

JanF said...

Thanks for finally letting us in on this, it is wonderful! Just what I ( we all) wanted for you. I am over the moon for you. Worth waiting for- yes?

Bohemian said...

Oh I LOVED hearing your Story of finding a Soul Mate in Mister X and the start of what could be a Relationship! I J'Adore a good Love Story, I found The Man when I wasn't even looking... and in fact, was quite jaded and deciding perhaps staying Single would be my lot in life. Fast forward 30 Years and we're still Yin and Yang, raised the Children I brought into the Relationship and then God Love him he Raised Two of our Grandchildren with me too. A good Man ... or Woman... is hard to find and a Rare find. I'm so Happy for you, it was a Feel Good Post and Lord have Mercy did I need that during this Chaotic Time of Pandemic!

Sixpence Notthewiser said...

OMG Steven!
This is sooo sweet! I really commend you for going out and making sure you met people. I’m sure Lurkie (where is Lurkie???) would be proud. He’d grumble a little, but would be proud.

XoXo

HuntleyBiGuy said...

Steven! You da man! This is a fantastic story. I’m so glad that you were able to put yourself out there. Sometimes we have to stretch our comfort zones and take a chance. And this one paid off! Woot woot!

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Anitia, we can't have her going to the dark side, next thing you know she will be trying to match something with an orange mega hat!
Okay yes bowling, seriously I never tried it before so I deserve a little slack! Hahaha! You read my blog... you know I'm no club kid! Besides I found a man there... mission accomplished I think! Lol

Banking? I didn't think that's what you were doing... I have to talk about you with someone! I need info :D

Sooo-this-is-me said...

JanF, thank you, very kind words. Yes he was definitely worth the wait, I wish that I found him sooner but he's here now. :)

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Bohemian, I really feel you, I was thinking that I would never find someone. Of course I'm not sure yet how far this will go but it feels very right to me now. Definitely, a good partner is hard to find.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Sixpence, I was really determined last fall to try different things, waiting for Mr right wasn't working and the online route was a dud.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

HuntleyBiGuy, thank you buddy, if he didn't give me his number... I was going to try a giant net!