Wednesday, December 11, 2019
Maybe something here?
This morning's thoughts by Steven, "cold cold freezing cold *¡#ing winter cold cookies cold. Well not totally... something else has been taking over my thought treadmill. The following questions are starting to show up, "what does this mean"? "Is there something here"? "Is this just wishful thinking"? I'm trying to seem relaxed and cooool about the sudden attention I have been receiving from a certain man. Yesterday all was quiet, I felt he probably regained his senses and was maybe even a little embarrassed by his sudden interest to me. I imagined us over the next few weeks, speaking to each other again at some party, maybe with him... grinning sheepishly at me, we would pretend nothing happened and move on. He was married, his life is a little complicated at times, so he probably would feel it's better not to start something.
This morning when I went to check for emails and texts, I thought to myself, "if I'm wrong, if he is interested, if there is actually something to this, then he won't be able to help himself, he will need to email me. When I turned on my phone... there were both an email and message from him. I felt a little "whoa" in my stomach. The messages were cute actually, along the lines of, "it's going to be awhile before we can see each other because not a lot of group activities during the holidays". Meaning, is it okay to get together somehow, well I guess I better work on that. Hmmm, that reminds me, I missed Monday night's gay bowling!
I'm taking this slow, I will see how we connect or don't connect. I make sure to always answer him in a positive tone, a friendly tone, this way I'm hoping he feels comfortable to reveal what is on his mind without fear of rejection. Meanwhile I'm enjoying the attention, like I said, it just feels really nice.
Posted by Sooo-this-is-me at 11:04 AM
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OMB, you're like a 16 year old girl with her first crush! DO NOT overthink this or you will drive yourself nutso. take to your brain what you wrote in your last paragraph. S-L-O-W.
Anne Marie, sometimes I feel like a teenage girl... lol. Yes I'm going slow, I'm not sure if he wants a boyfriend or good friend with benefits, either one is fine with me!
Why not tell him what you want instead of trying to figure out what he wants?
What Anne Marie said: Just do it. If it works, how fabulous, if it doesn't there are plenty of other gay fish in the sea!
Just trying to get a reading first.
Bob, yes that's why I keep saying I'm just enjoying this, I'm not in a rush to get anywhere.
Have fun. Life is not for the meek or mild.
Dave, okay next time I see him, I'm doing a running tackle, once I get him down, well that's up to him! ;)
I love that you’re all excited about this. Good sign. It means you find him attractive.
And it’s sweet that he wrote and let you know what’s going on with him.
I agree with the guys and gals here. Just relax and enjoy the ride.
Sixpence, so asking him to marry me... is probably not a good idea?
Asking him to marry you is probably a less bad idea than the mind games you are playing with him now. "Did he message me today? OMG then he likes me!!!" Have you been reading that book The Rules?
Old Lurker, you know nothing... what mind games? I'm observing how he acts, there is a pattern when someone is becoming interested in dating you. However you don't want to seem desperate and jump to conclusions. Maybe he just wants to be friends, I don't want to drive the poor guy off. This was such a bad idea to bring this up here, I promise not to mention it again.
The mind games where you are waiting for him to message you, and timing how quickly he responds so that you can gauge how desperately he has fallen in love with you? Good grief. (At least you are being kind in his responses, so you aren't totally a Rules Girl.)
Say he really likes you but is shy and had not messaged you promptly. Would you interpret that as meaning he was not interested? That is just self-sabotage.
Also your threat of withholding the development of this crush from us is cute, but Sixpence won't put up with that.
i know you are only protecting yourself, but sometimes we have to take a chance and let down our defenses. I’m not saying to be totally vulnerable, but open up a little and let yourself have some joy that you obviously deserve. Nothing ventured, nothing gained.
Yup, sorry Lurk, I was having my little girl moment. Folded arms, stomping foot and everything!
HuntleyBiGuy, if I mess this up... it's going to be all your fault!!! Lol, no just teasing you buddy!
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