Friday, April 19, 2019
Out with friend.
Yesterday was a warm day, fffinally! I knew that today would be a holiday so I decided that I wanted to go out to eat last night, knowing I wouldn't have to worry about getting up early. I called James and asked if he wanted to meet up for dinner, he said yes and we met at a restaurant near his place. I feel that I spend too much time communicating with online friends and not enough time with an actual friend. I like James, as I have said, he has his quirks but is a decent man, plus this may be shocking to many of you... I have my own quirks as well. Some people might be put off by his bluntness but I appreciate it, even if he says something that I don't like, I know it's from his factual personality and not from trying to be mean. I like the honesty, it makes me feel comfortable around him.
At the restaurant, I was getting out of my car and saw him walking up with a big smile on his face. He looked.... good? Really good actually and for the first time ever, I felt a stirring towards him. We sat down and conversation was easy with him. I think the constant emailing really helps because we already have that background of knowledge between ourselves.
I was sitting there thinking to myself, I wonder what it would be like to have sex with this man, that we probably will have sex some day, we have discussed it, he understands that we are just friends, again he is very factual about sex, almost comical to most people but it's actually a huge turn on for me because I know he means what he says in practical terms, also refreshing from the stupid things most men have said to me online. James is tall, about six one or two, ooow I like tall guys, again standing in the parking lot I felt a spark while talking to him, he is slender and the good kind of hairy, I like that as well. I had visions of what could happen. I want to meet up a few times and maybe if all is well, we could plan a day trip away together and try out this gay sex thing people keep talking about.
My only negative take away was when he ate, he kind of made a huge mess of himself and it turned me off, as in really off, I couldn't watch him eating. I suddenly felt like I was in an old Ally McBeal episode. If you are not familiar with that show, she might go on a date with a guy and he may seem perfect for her until he would eat and have food on his face. Then in her mind she would see him as having his entire face smeared with salad dressing or something to that effect. I saw people looking at him and a waiter had to rescue him, it annoyed me greatly. I know that is one of my quirks, I don't like attention and I certainly don't want to draw "unwanted" attention. He was embarrassed and I downplayed the moment. Next time I will keep him out of embarrassing situations, it's what I need to do as his friend.
It was getting dark and so I had to go, I felt a little bad about that but later I was thankful as a fog rolled in on my way home like I never saw before. There were times when I was crawling along in the car because I couldn't tell where I was, it was unbelievable. When I got home, James had sent me an email, thanking me for inviting him out and wishing me a good weekend. The normal thing for a friend to do! That's one of the things I admire about him, none of the games that the other guys play, what's wrong with communication between friends!
Have a good weekend everyone!
Posted by Sooo-this-is-me at 10:37 AM
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If you stick with him you might find yourself taking a napkin and cleaning something off his face in a sexy sort of way. Hey, it could happen. David is a messy guy too. But now he's not so bad when he eats. Just take it slow, darlin. You'll get there. Have a magical sweet weekend.
I hate sloppy eaters. Some tend to be sloppy kissers. Not all. Give the man a chance. Or a napkin. Everyone makes a mess of himself at one time or another. I can't eat a taco for my life without making a mess of it. But don't give up on someone on the first date/lunch/dinner/movie pick. Some us take a while to get warmed up and bring our game on. Happy Ostara!
I have a friend who will use a finger to push food onto the fork instead of using the knife. He will also lick his fingers after doing this. I find this so gross. I try not sit opposite of him at dinners so I don't have to see him do this.
What do you mean by huge mess? Did he put his face down in his plate/bowl to eat or something? If messy eating was a deal breaker for me, this marriage wouldn't have lasted for coming up on 44 years! I like Leanna's idea. Sweetie, you are not going to find someone perfect, but you may find someone perfect for you if you give it a chance. I think I like James. I personally don't like it when someone chews with their mouth open (smacking). That sound..argh! Balder Half and his sisters all manage to make that sound even though they don't chew with their mouths open! I don't understand it. I wasn't going to let a little *shudder* smacking blind me to all of his good points. Now if he was abusive, or physically unclean, that would've been the deal breaker for me. Also, what am I bringing to the table, so to speak? Take your time, hon. Jumping in the sack should not be the first priority when seeking a relationship.
Way to undermine your previous post, Mr "I don't feel any attraction towards him".
What is the bad kind of hairy?
You have quirks?! I thought you were practically perfect in every way.
my spouse is sloppy when he eats too. I chalk it up to his being a guy. married 27 years this october. I often kid him that he needs a bib.
Don't focus on the eating habits,focus on the funny, smart cute and tall parts.
I was surprised to see your blog entry. Did you not say or write some time ago that you were going on a blog vacation? Or am I dreaming? Anyway have a good Easter Weekend.
Leanna, napkins... that's what I'm thinking. He asked if we could get pizza sometime, I asked him if he is safe around pizza, he said yes because he eats it with a knife and fork! :)
Wally... hehehe.. yes don't worry, I wouldn't disown him because he is a sloppy eater, I'm not that judgmental.
Richard, ewww I totally see your point!
Deedles, your second sentence cracked me up! There is a man at work who comes from a well educated, well off family who should know better and yet he smacks his food because he chews with his mouth open and also talks with his mouth full... aaaaahh!
OL, well I didn't feel anything for him when I wrote it. He's a good man, it's a bonus if I become attracted to him, I think it would be great if I did.
Everyone knows what the bad kind of hairy is, hair in all the wrong places and lots of it. If you like hair, you want a man that looks like a lumber jack, not Chewbacca!
One of my quirks is to lie about not having quirks... even though I don't have any.
Anne Marie, I know the problem is actually me being annoyed with him and not his messiness.
Bob, that's what I'm trying to do and honestly if this turns out to be the worst thing about his personality, it's still pretty good compared to some of the things I have seen.
Laurent, you are not dreaming, I did take a week or two off... but you know my fans kept begging me to come back! Happy Easter weekend to you and Will also!
Ah...a sloppy eater. I am not sure I could deal with it, but if that's the only thing about him, then I could!
Michael, no he has a lot of little issues lol. Just when I start to wonder about being attracted to him, he will start doing something that becomes a distraction.
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