Sunday, April 26, 2020
Over the fetish top.
It's that time of year again, spring cleaning for my blog. I always end up with a bunch in the "drafts" column. I'm not sure when I started this one, sometime last fall. It's interesting to read this because I'm hoping to one day have a boyfriend and now I actually do. One cool thing in here is I say that I have become attracted to men with beards, my new beau sports some face fur and I actually grew a fuzzy face because I like the way he looks at me with a beard. I'm not sure what made me write this, probably something happened in the online dating scene that sparked this post.
Speaking of gay preferences.. and fetishes.. and turn ons.. and low down in heat lustful man drooling, there is one thing that drives me crazy, stop OVER doing it. Example, most erotic pictures of men now have the guy so closely shaved clean, that he looks like he's had some sort of chemical bath. A little hair on a man is nice, (with the exception of ears, nose or knuckles). Sometimes I find a site that invites readers to check them out if you like pictures of men.. with a hairy chest for example, when I go there, it's clear that the person has become obsessed with hairy chests and it has reached the fetish level. Usually the men are so hairy that I begin to wonder if I have accidentally clicked onto a Bigfoot sighting page. It begins to look like a circus freak show, I'm saying things like, "I didn't know men could be that hairy" or "I wonder if he's wearing a sweater?"
If I say I like a cute bum on a man, I don't want to see pictures of men bent over like they are about to have their temperature taken rectally... or they are trying to show me how well their hemorrhoid cream is working. It can be anything that gay/bi men find attractive about other men. Give a fetish inch and run with it a mile. A little tummy is cute on a man, most guys don't have six-pack abs (except our Cali Boi ;D), everyone needs to accept this and get over it. However don't go to a site that boasts about having a "little tummy" because it will go to the extreme, making you wonder, "is that a beer belly or is he nine months along"? Same with beards, tattoos, piercings, older men, tall men, short men, husky men, underwear, baldness etc etc. Just show me a nice guy that has a tattoo or beard, not someone that looks like a hermit who was captured in the woods. I'm not even going to touch the men with toys pages, nope I can't afford the therapy after looking at those sites.
I think my preferences get affected in reverse to what is popular. Blonde, blue eyed men are attractive but they don't press my buttons as much as dark haired, brown eyed men do. I think I get over exposed to one type and become immune to them. The darker the better as in guys with raven black hair.. of course same dark coloured body hair is super sexy to me. Younger men are nice to look at but I get bored with them, older men get my attention more now. Again the absolutely shaved thing is a turn off, I want my guy to look like a man and not a man-nequin. I used to not like facial hair but now a trimmed beard is a button pusher. I think there is some "opposites attract" going on with me as well. Being thin, extremely white, not that tall, I find I'm attracted to guys that are tall, darker in skin colour and I prefer a guy that's a little on the heavier side, than on the really thin side. Plus.. I like a guy with big feet, don't ask me why lol... and no it has nothing to do with that size myth about feet and penises. Big feet and hands, a total turn on for me. Again though, don't go to some site with a name like "Guys with nice feet". There you will find pictures that are just so wrong lol, just so so wrong!
Of course all this means nothing if I find someone that "fits" with me. The most important thing is that our personalities mesh. I have often found myself attracted to someone that doesn't fit my preferences, I'm not really surprised by this because my preferences have shifted over the years. Some guys personalities are just that attractive and they are fun to be around. I think the trick is to try and find a great personality with a few of my preferences added in and hope I can connect with them. If they happen to be a tall, dark haired man with a furry chest and big feet then that's just a bonus for me!