Tuesday, January 28, 2020
Straight guy lust.. not!
Allow me to jump in... the "straight" m4m issues are swirling around again so here's my opinion..again. I admit I do like straight-ish looking men, yes I know that makes many of you crazy but I can't help it. I guess it's that saying, "I want a husband just like dear old dad". My dad was a stand up guy, who wouldn't want that in a partner, I also have to say my dad was a clean cut really good looking man. I feel he did probably imprint a vision of what I want in a partner regarding type, so it stands to reason that it would be that straight acting type.
However I have to say that I've never been with a straight guy and I am not interested in one either. The truth is I don't believe they are straight, I feel 100% inside my mind, that they are bisexual or maybe even gay and can't accept it. Hence my reason for not being interested, I feel they have issues... and so, are intimately untrustworthy 'in my opinion' because they are out of touch or in denial about their feelings. To me it doesn't make sense to be intimate with a confused person like that. I assume that's why I often hear the sex is not that good, how can you be comfortable with another guy, if you are not comfortable with yourself.
Over the past year, I have become friends with guys that claim to be straight but experiment with other men sexually. At first I thought maybe my view was wrong; however as I get to know them more and as they get to trust me more, I really feel that I was right the first time. They are gay or bisexual and don't understand or want to understand their homosexual desires. I always say, just think in reverse, does any person reading this, want to have sex with someone that is not part of who they're sexually attracted to. This of course causes these faux straight guys to get upset.
As an example, one of my newer gay friends told a bunch of us an embarrassing but also horribly funny story. He is one of those men that people always assumes is straight and he tried hard to fit into that roll. In his college days he was having a hard time accepting the fact that he's gay. He forced himself to date women and being a tall, handsome guy, he could easily get girlfriends. This is about to be graphic.. warning.. sorry!!! One evening he went out with a young woman and they went back to her room. She wanted him to perform oral on her, having never done that before, he figured no problem, how difficult could it be. Unfortunately the close up view of lady parts, was frightening enough for him but when he caught wind of the scent... he instantly vomited on the offending body part. Talk about a way to end an evening!
After that enlightening story, other gay men shared similar awkward but funny moments. In my younger days, I have watched straight guys get into gay play when drunk, however they will start to gag if the fooling starts to go too far, it's not in them, they are straight. I think the confusion is coming from the fact that there are a lot more bisexual men than we thought, now more "straight" men are coming forward and admitting some degree of bisexuality. Sorry I don't care what anyone says, if a man likes having a penis in his mouth, he's not straight and from the internal homophobia I'm starting to run across, I think it's time the gay/bi community starts saying that. Time to stop pretending we "lured" straight men away from women, like we're that good in bed. No you just enabled a self-homophobic man to have his cake and sleep with it too.