As I make my way through the land of gays, I have come across a very common problem. I have started talking to a few guys in my city. They all say the same thing, how they have no, (or not many) gay friends. How hard it is to meet other gay people and how lonely it is. I suddenly came up with this terrific plan, what if that person and myself meet, maybe even better, what if I met a few of them and helped them to meet each other. Apparently however that is not the answer, silly naive me, I need to learn more.
The trouble is I have no interest in maintaining an email friendship with someone in this city. I already have some of you guys as email friends, one friendship is going on to twelve years. I want real world friends as well, I want to grab a meal, catch a movie or go enjoy a concert with real friends. If I fall in love or get to shag one of them, that's an added bonus! What a great word "shag" cracks me up saying it. I don't want to put the effort into another friendship that keeps me looking at a computer screen.
The solution seemed clear to me but not so clear to the others. If I ask to meet, they say yes and are excited to meet me but there is always an excuse, long day at work, have to do laundry, feeling tired, have to do some errands etc etc etc. I am just asking for a coffee date, I'm not asking them to show up to our wedding ceremony! Am I missing something here? Do you see the problem, guys feeling lonely and wanting to meet more people but staying home
and not going out. I think they are lonely because they have become lazy about meeting others or maybe people have become so soft, that they don't want to have to deal with the little bit of anxiety which comes from meeting someone new. Maybe they need those pink kitty hats.