Wednesday, April 4, 2018
Truth is Not Blunt, it's True.
Autism and sexuality are not two words that most people would put together. Children with autism however become adults with autism and many of these adults are fully functional members of today's society. Being an adult comes with adult desires and hopefully adult relationships.
I stumbled upon some articles written about autism and sexuality and I found it very interesting. Many people with autism are very blunt with their answers or should I say, they are very honest with their answers. They will often answer truthfully not feeling a need to be dishonest. For instance an autistic friend may tell you that a shirt looks terrible on you, while another friend would lie, saying it looked great on you, so as not to hurt your feelings even though they also felt the shirt looked terrible. I found it really interesting then when autistic people were asked about their sexuality, regarding heterosexual, homosexual or bisexual. It seems 70% of autistic people didn't identify as heterosexual; however many also didn't want to be placed in the other groups, they felt the labels had limitations on their sexuality.
I found that groundbreaking and it had me thinking. Now of course in the articles, the people doing the studies wondered if autism had some effect on sexuality and maybe it does, I am certainly not an expert. I found it groundbreaking because if people with autism are known for blurting out the truth, maybe they just spilled a secret that society has been hiding.
Maybe most people have a fluid sexuality and have been taught to keep that hidden. We are certainly starting to see more members of society open up about these issues. We are also starting to understand more and more people don't fit into the heterosexual mold. Like the guys I had been emailing with, everyone in their lives, thinks that they are straight family men, yet they are not. However they have explained to me that they do not see themselves as bisexual either. At first I thought maybe they were just confused but now I understand them more and I don't know what you would call them. I had to work out where I belonged in the world of sexuality, I'm certainly not going to try and shove a label onto someone who feels that category doesn't fit them.
If the people involved with the study were just your average Joe, they may not be aware of the hidden world of sexuality that is everywhere. That could be the problem because like the ugly shirt question, the people with autism are just speaking truthfully about the things the rest of us are keeping hidden.