Friday, March 10, 2017
I'm a Stat
The other day while reading an article on men's health, they quoted a statistic saying that much higher numbers of gay men live in isolation, compared to straight men who tend to have a partner or family. They said because of this gay men have a higher risk for mental health problems like depression. I don't feel like going into it at this moment but to be honest I'm having some hard days lately and I can understand this point. Not counting how crazy things got near the end of my taking care of a parent with Alzheimer, at least for a while I wasn't alone. The stupid thing is a lot of gay people are lonely and at some levels maybe even hurting but they are so inflexible and stubborn that they have imprisoned themselves. Some days I just want to smack all the guys past thirty five and tell them to get over themselves, Ryan Gosling is not going to show up to date or hangout with them. It's about who cares for you, who shows up when you need help, who suddenly thinks about you out of the blue, life is definitely not about how big someone's thing is. .............................................. I often wonder about this because on many different levels I isolate myself, even though it's completely the opposite to what I really want. Now it seems according to this article that it's a gay man's quirk. The disappointment in trying to meet guys is the constant realization that the only thing most guys want is to hook up with me. Maybe that's why I hear so many stories about guys becoming friends or boyfriends after hooking up, maybe sex has become the gay man's "hello", maybe it was always that way and I was too naive to see it. I am fully aware that I can be an odd character, plus as I have said before I am also introverted which certainly doesn't help meeting people. I can't help feeling saddened by this tidbit of information, is this going to be my life. .................................................................... Maybe this fact should be brought out into the light more often, gay men could use it as a tool hopefully to change things around and work against it. I could use this knowledge as a tool, I can say "here is what happens, isolation, loneliness, depression, now make sure it doesn't happen to me". I know it can seem easier to be on your own but I don't think it's healthy for a person to live on their own. There are people who live as friends, two to three in a house or apartment and people often say "that is so weird" but I don't think so, I think it's beautiful when done out of friendship and mostly I understand. My only problem is I have to deal with gay guys, and they can be such self centered, stuck up, moody bitches, but I'm keeping a positive outlook.