Saturday, March 4, 2017
Cup of tea?
Sometimes the best things in life can be the simplest things. Nothing like in the morning when you make that perfect cup of coffee or that soothing cup of tea. You never really think about it until one day for some reason it's just not right. You can try to add more water, more flavor, more milk, cream or sugar but it's a losing battle, once off it stays off. Tea for me is not some trendy bandwagon that I jumped on, it's in my culture, everyone in my family drank tea, most of my neighbours drank tea. Coffee was only for breakfast or a social gathering, for some strange reason most of the women in my family never touched coffee, only my generation changed that. I started drinking coffee at breakfast about ten years ago but I quit just before Christmas, suddenly I find now it makes me feel hyper, not a good productive kind of alertness but more like the feeling that there is a lion hiding in the bushes waiting for me kind of hyper. So it's back to my cup of tea. I hope nobody is trying to find a metaphor here, what I mean by a good cup of tea.... is just the feeling of enjoying a good cup of tea. ............................................. Sitting down with a good cup of tea last Saturday morning (and my homemade oatmeal cranberry cookies), I decided to try signing up for a gay networking site, (okay yes basically a dating site) and I suddenly realized how boring I have become. Filling out interests, sports I like and groups I belong to, made me see how NOT well rounded I am. The trouble is almost a catch twenty two, I can't find the right clubs because I don't know enough gay people and I don't know enough gay people because I am not in any clubs. I don't think listing the volunteer cemetery caretakers group I belong to is one of those things that would attract guys to me. Maybe I need to fill in the gaps, there seems to be a gap between the ages of 35 to 55 regarding things for gay men to do in order to meet in a social setting. There are a lot of nice wilderness parks nearby, I was thinking about trying to get a hiking group going. Just to give people a chance to meet and everyone could join, not like a gay hockey or baseball club where the clumsy guys would stay away. Right now it's -33 Celsius with the wind chill so that gives me time to figure it out.