Tolerating intolerance?

It's interesting to me to see how younger gay people live life. In Canada, many of the twenty somethings have been raised in an atmosphere of acceptance. They truly feel a part of society and see no distinction between themselves and heterosexual people, I am envious of this view point. They do not accept discrimination and are genuinely surprised whenever it presents itself, even better is their response to it, an immediate push back. ............................................. Being from an older generation, my world view is different and sometimes I feel of two minds about issues. Take for instance an indecent that happened last week. A young gay couple were making wedding plans, which on a side note still amazes me to write, "gay wedding plans". Anyhow back on track, this young couple were making wedding plans and the photographer upon finding out it was for two men, sent them an email stating that they would not take the job due to their religious beliefs. ............................................. I at first felt it was the photographer's right to turn down the job. The email was polite, I felt at least they were being honest and I know religion is something that people hold close to the very core of their being. I feel it's a little scary to start interfering with someone's religious beliefs. I also think this type of person is probably not that flexible and it would only make things worse by making them feel something was being forced on them. ............................................ Then there is the other side, I feel that holding this view, I am betraying the gay family, wimping out so to speak, not standing up for myself. I'm agreeing with trying to appease someone who doesn't deserve it. I am tolerating their intolerance towards people like me. A person could see how wrong this is when the word "gay" is taken out and another group is used in its place. "We're sorry but due to our beliefs we don't serve Asians, Jewish people, women etc". Sounds clear enough when changed around this way, although many religions do have rules about the role of women and we don't start enforcing secular laws on them. I heard an interesting interview with a lawyer who handles these types of cases in Canada. He said people have the right to hold an opinion or belief about certain groups but if they have a company that serves the public, they can't use those belief to discriminate against that particular group. I find it interesting that everyone becomes so religious when dealing with the Lgbt community. ............................................. If only these people could see the positive side to gay marriage, it's not an assault on marriage, it's an affirmation of marriage. Gay people (like me) see what their parents and grandparents had and they want that for themselves as well. The only difference is we have to have it in our own version of a relationship, a same-sex couple because that's who we are, we are not damaged straight people waiting to be fixed, we are gay people. It's a shame that these people can't see we actually want the same thing. Leaves me wondering what is the right thing to do, hope they come around? The problem with that is history shows the people who stay quiet and try to gently make changes usually get no where, it usually takes the loud, flashy, in your face moments to make real changes.