Saturday, November 18, 2017

Your Golden Boy.

There was an old expression in my area that people used to use in describing someone's favourite child, it was golden haired boy or golden haired girl. These days since most people only have one or two children instead of four or five, that saying is obsolete. I keep hearing some sayings being tossed around the gay community, "gold star gay" or "golden gay". Turns out this is a term for a gay man who has never "been" with a woman, if you know what I mean. That made me laugh, I finally get a gold star but it's not for something I have done, it's for something I didn't do! There are many things I haven't done in life, I should get a trophy! Sorry to my bi readers, you guys are disqualified automatically. People usually ask me that question sooner or later, have I ever dated a woman, have I ever slept with a woman, the truth is no. The next question is always so odd for me, they usually ask "if you have never been with a woman, how do you know that you are gay"? I always answer with a question, I ask them how do they know that they are straight? Sometimes they will ask if I am curious about what it would be like to be with a woman. Then comes the question, "if you had the chance to sleep with a woman, would you"? I have to be honest and I always say..... yes. If I knew her well, felt comfortable with her and she knew about me then yes I would be interested in the experience. I honestly don't know how it would go, if anything would actually work (lol) but I would give it a try. Don't misunderstand what I'm saying, I'm not bisexual, I would have no interest in starting a relationship, it would just be an experience for me. Sadly one of the side effects would be that I would lose my goal star; however I would have created a new title for myself, "gay curious" a gay identified man interested in straight sex, which is the opposite of straight curious, something we keep reading about but doesn't seem to exist in the real world. Maybe I would start a new trend, there would be a whole column on craigslist for gay men trying to hook up with women. Mostly I tell them that I have enough trouble finding a man to be with, so I am certainly not going to put a lot of effort into losing my shiny star.

8 comments:

Mistress Maddie said...

Now I have learned something tonight. A lot of guys call me the golden boy over at my local pool and club and had no idea what they were talking about. Here I thought it was because of my dirty blond hair. I'm one of the few who never had an experience with a woman. But I know for sure I'm gay.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Steven, I am glad that you now know you are precious! (Lol) Same here, I have always known I'm gay, dating a woman felt very wrong to me. To be honest I don't think I could follow through being intimate with a woman and it's not really something that crosses my mind very much, I just thought those labels were funny.

John Going Gently said...

I used to date girls and I liked it.....but when I kissed my first man.........I'd never go back!

Ur-spo said...

I recently heard something like this, a bent status symbol about never having sex with a woman - as if this was somehow superior to gay men who haven't . I think this a nasty thing for it implies an inferiority in a few ways all not nice.

Anonymous said...

You always write such thoughtful posts. I have been with women, and once with a man (sort of). Still waiting for that Mr. Right to come along.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

John, wow that guy must have been a good kisser! I think you would be in big trouble if you tried to go back. Lol.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Dr Spo, yes true and there does seem to be a group of people who are always trying to put a label on everything. Dividing us up into little groups usually doesn't benefit mankind.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Michael 54, thank you. At the moment I would settle for Mr. Slightly crazy but still loveable to come along. No wait a minute, I think I already dated him.