Tuesday, January 27, 2009

One Day, One Year

This past weekend I spent with Dave (like most of my weekends now) because it was his birthday. Sadly our city picked this time of year to be asleep, entertainment wise that is. It also became bone-chilling cold so it was better to stay indoors and snuggle. We did have a good friend over for dinner Saturday, he like me, has only been out for a short time and it was fun to talk about the gay bloopers we both made. We also did some shopping Sunday and then I took Dave for his birthday dinner to a gay owned restaurant. The food and atmosphere were great but we were disappointed that it was a slow night because of the weather and we ended up being the only couple there. We wanted to be part of the herd, you know... sometimes we just want to be with other gay couples.

Today my Babe sent me an email from work, it was one of the ads I had put on line looking for gay friends, the date is a year ago today. This ad was my third attempt and I was about to give up. Little did I know that a super nice gay man was about to read it, feel a connection with me, contact me and offer a hand in friendship. The rest as they say is history, this would start a chain of emails and a few phone calls, later on February sixth we would meet in person for the first time, that evening I would have very strong feelings for someone I just met and that would kind of have me caught off guard. Dave had sent me a picture but I remember when he walked in and I saw him for the very first time, I thought 'wow he is so tall, I love tall guys'. He was easy to talk to and I felt relaxed with him. I can remember sitting there hanging on his every word, staring into his soft brown eyes and thinking he was such a nice down to earth kind of guy, the kind of guy I would love to date, I also remember thinking "he is perfect but a guy like him would never be interested in me".

The other thing that attracted me to him was his thoughtfulness, he was suppose to be a friend to help me experience gay life. We were on our way to my very first gay-bar visit, he was so understanding that he had us meet in a coffee shop first so that I did not have to go in alone. That spoke volumes to me about the kind of guy he is. I don't want to jump ahead too much here because I will probably blog about our first meeting again and also about when we decided to go out with each other. For now however I will take a moment and just think back to my message and to the lonely gay man who did not know he had just wrote the few sentences that would finally change his life towards the way he wanted to be living it.

9 comments:

Anonymous said...

Steve, it's if it was just last month that you met, time flies, luckily you had fun during that time and found a great friend and more.

Maybe a bit to early but congratulations to you both.

Butch said...

When I was younger and out and about, we only met people in the bars or if one was lucky, at parties. It's amazing how the internet has taken over that part of meeting people. Congratulations on your find.

john said...

Dave is such a wonderful person. You are really lucky to have one another...remember when you reach out to someone, someone will reach their hand back. It's always the way friendship/love starts.

Wayne said...

Yea, this is all nice and warm and fuzzy, but we haven't forgotten about that secret blog you want to tell us about. Did you think we'd forget? Come on, you want to tell us...........

A Troll At Sea said...

Steve-o:

at least you know which night to commemorate as your "anniversary." I wish I did.

I have the night I first laid eyes on the Goat, and fell for him (October something); the night we first slept together, which was pretty amazing (February something); the night we slept together and I knew this was IT (the night before Easter Sunday); the night I discovered that I was not the only person in danger of losing my heart (July something--and you know, I have no idea any more what night "something" might have been...

Oh, well, I think I'll stick with Easter--it comes along every year, and it's hard to forget.

Cheers
T@C

The Vice Buddha said...

Well... I m new here... havent read all your posts yet! But sure Dave sounds like a nice boy! :)

Just gie in your best to this relationship and you'll see, it would sketch wonders!

Best of luck to both of you.

Luv always,
Josh.

Birdie said...

Has it really been that long? I well remember those exciting moments in your journey, some of my favorite posts on all my bookmarked blogs. Tell Dave we think he's a lucky man.

r. said...

My work has finally blocked Wordpress.. or maybe you said something dirty here! ahaha! Sorry that I've been absent.

Happy belated birthday to Dave. Oright, WHAT secret blog??? Hmm...

Anonymous said...

Who knew that this last year would pass you by so quickly? But look at what you have been able to take in, learn, enjoy, and most of all....live! Congratulations on this first year! May there be many more to come!