Gay people need to keep in mind the dangers of meeting strangers for sex. I guess if I'm writing a gay-ish blog, then I need to include the dark side. Especially men who are into the rougher, no strings hook ups with people they just met.
I am talking about what is being uncovered in the Toronto area. They arrested a 66 year old gay man who they suspect now of being a serial killer. They have the remains of five men so far, it gets worse. He runs a landscape business and they are finding body parts buried in the large planters of his customers, police are asking anyone who used him as a landscaper to come forward, as you may have someone buried on your property and not know it. They suspect there could be many more than already found. I can think of times where gay men from Ottawa went missing and as far as I know, no trace was ever found.
This guy was the perfect predator, had his own business, took part in a fundraiser, met gay friends on line, even worked as a Santa Claus for Christmas..... chills, chills, chills! He had a thing for mostly middle eastern men but also targeted homeless men, I imagine because missing immigrants and homeless men would not be noticed. I can't help thinking that some of the gay middle eastern men moved to Canada out of fear for their safety, only to be killed in such a horrible way here, makes me sick and so sad. The final chilling thing was when the police kicked down the door to arrest "it", he had a young man tied up. Imagine how that guy feels now, thinking he was going to have a kinky even of fun, only to learn he was tied up by a serial killer.
I hope gay men (or anyone actually), take a step back and plan things out better when meeting someone new, especially meeting someone online. This should be a warning, you don't know what you are getting into. There definitely is a huge part of the gay culture that likes to practice risky behaviors or a mixing of pain and pleasure. I am not judging those people, that is not my thing but if they are having fun, not my business, I'm just saying take care, be cautious. From some of what I understand though, he may have met with and became friends with, some of these guys. That frightens me most of all, because if someone makes friends with me, seems like a normal guy, plays Santa and runs a business dealing with clients I don't think I would have seen the danger coming either!
I hope later on there is a review on how the police handle this investigation. I am not mentioning "its" name here on my blog but if you want to read more about the investigation, search (Toronto gay serial killer).