Tuesday, May 29, 2018

Steve goes on a date.

 In spite of my first bungling connecting with a guy, I turned that mistake around. He was very understanding when I explained me being a newbie at dating again, he said not to worry. I had started an email thread and we were going back and forth getting to know a little about each other. He was eager to meet and I understand why, sometimes guys will string you along for weeks but never meet with you. Meeting would be difficult for me but I decided I had better do it otherwise he would grow tired of me if I kept making excuses.

 His work was actually on the way to my work so meeting would not be that difficult. He kept telling me his after noon hours were flexible and kept wondering when we could meet. Sunday, I asked to meet with him over lunch on Tuesday  and he agreed. Yesterday I was so nervous my stomach felt sick but in the evening I told myself that he seems to be a nice guy, that nothing will probably come out of the meeting but hopefully at least a friendship will, and I just need to relax. This morning I wasn't terribly nervous, I felt good about it, I picked out something special to wear to hopefully look a little extra "dateable" I had a new Chaps shirt just waiting for a reason to be worn, I even got a haircut.

 Driving in to the city I was a little nervous again but I still felt good, as I said, I wasn't going in to the meeting with any expectations, that way if something just didn't click, we would part ways and that would be it. I thought it would be nice to make a gay friend and maybe he would introduce me to other gay men. Suddenly a thought hit me and it scared me. What if he is the one, what if you find yourself back in a relationship, there's much more regarding the dynamics of a couple than a single person.

 I wasn't sure about the coffee shop so I arrived early, there were others similar to it and I was a bit confused. He wasn't online yet so I couldn't confirm. I googled it and I seemed to be in the right place. I found it strange he wasn't on line, he usually is around noon. He also didn't check last night to double confirm. I sent him a message I was there early and waited, we were not supposed to meet until one. Looking out into the parking lot I had this image of a familiar man sitting on my car hood, he was shaking his head at me, letting me know he felt sorry for me, it was Mr Bean.

 "He's not coming" Mr Bean said in that funny voice of his, "you should have called this post, Mr Bean goes on a coffe date". Pointing at his watch it read seven minutes past one, even though he was only seven minutes late, I knew in my heart he wasn't coming. When I looked up, Mr Bean was gone. I waited until 1:30, then got something to eat and left a few minutes later. He seemed like such a nice down to earth
guy and was so eager to meet, of all the scenarios that played out in my head, positive or negative, the thought of him not even bothering to show up was not one of them.

18 comments:

Deedles said...

Maybe he was in an accident.
Maybe he's a jerk.
Maybe you're more secure.
Maybe he's a prick.
Mr. Bean should mind his own business and keep his big mouth shut!
Well, as they say, if at first you fricassee, fry fry a hen.

Kiss on the forehead, sweetums. Back away from the chocolate!

Ur-spo said...

A no show for a date is a horrible horrible lack of manners. He should have at least called later to apologize and explain.
Try again.

Mike said...

Bad form! Was this guy raised by wolves?

I'm sorry you got your hopes up, Steven. There will be a next time and I know screwing your courage to the sticking place will be a little easier then.

(googling chaps shirt)

Deedles said...

Mike, let's not disparage wolves! They at least show up for meals and bring friends!
(Googling sticking place and how to screw it)

John Going Gently said...

I remember telling you that I kissed a few frogs in my time. But several of those frogs failed to turn up too!
Chin up,
Pull yourself up by the bra straps
And off you need to date again

rjjs8878 said...

This has happened to me too. I also had a guy cancel two minutes before the date. I'm sorry this happened to you. You have to get back on the horse and try again.

Mike - Chaps is a brand of Ralph Lauren. You're danger of losing your gay card.

Mike said...

RJ, I knew this day was coming. Want to buy my Judy Garland collection?

Michael said...

Steven,
Sorry that this date didn't turn out well. Maybe in the long run this is a good thing and the guy wasn't worth it. I am certain that there's someone out there for you that's perfect!

Agnes Goldberg-DeWolfs said...

I have found you from the Mistress Borghese's blog and been meaning to stop by. I am not sure what you have been through, but a no show on a date, really shows one's true side and personality trait.

As my William says, Kid, you dodged a bullet. And a no call or apology is even further inexcusable.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Deedles, you said fried chicken and chocolate, now I feel all better. :)

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Dr Spo, that's what I thought. It doesn't make a person feel good to be forgotten.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Mike, well sitting there feeling like a fool I did think to myself, "this will certainly make a good blog post"!

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Deedles, correct and at least they kill their victims before tearing the heart out! I did get a nice apple fritter while waiting.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

John, with my luck, if I kiss a frog, I won't get a Prince, I will just get warts.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

RJ, I just don't get why people do that, they miss out on an opportunity to meet someone new. Don't tease poor Mike, gay people hadn't been invented yet when he was young.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

If you have a Judy Garland collection, your gay card is as safe as you having a Cher, Madonna or Lady Gaga collection.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Michael, I am starting to think that perfect guy got lost trying to find me! Lol

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Hello Agnes, you will find this blog a lot tamer than Mistress Maddie, although most blogs would probably be tamer than Maddie's blog! Lol