Read the Label!

 The catch phrase these days for man on man relations is, "don't label me". I used to feel there were two types of men, homosexual and bisexual. I should take a second to say if you are not comfortable with talking about sexuality, now would be a good time to look at cute puppy memes! Many guys however seem to have a problem with the term bisexual. To me, any guy that is interested in having some form of sexual experience with another guy is to some degree bisexual. Maybe they misunderstand the term, maybe I am the one who is wrong regarding the meaning. I think about my own situation, I identify as gay, I have no sexual attraction to women. I would however if in the right situation, be open to try having sex with a woman just for the experience. I don't feel that makes me bisexual for the main reason that I never think of searching out a situation where that could happen. It's not part of my fantasies, I don't really think about it.

 I am fascinated by guys that identify as straight and yet experiment with other guys. I guess it's the hyper masculinity of a straight alpha male, the forbidden fruit so to speak. Maybe it's also the realization, my belief system is turning out true, that a lot of guys are actually bisexual to some degree but were raised to reject it. I actually email back and forth with some guys like this, I am not going to meet them, I just am so interested in how they think and how they see themselves.

 One guy describes himself as straight-ish, he likes to meet up with other guys, get to know them, watch straight porn together and masturbate, it's a male bonding experience, he said sometimes when they get to know each other they will help each other out while watching the movie, mutual masturbation and sometimes oral. It's bonding over their attraction to women however and heterosexual sex not homosexual sex. He said this aspect is what turns him on, he is not interested in watching a gay film with other guys or being with a gay man. He is comfortable around gay men so it doesn't seem to be some issue with internal homophobia.

 Another man I used to email with also said he is mostly straight. He told me about a hidden world that he is part of, mostly young attractive married men. They have secret meetings which involve group masturbation. They have families which they love but they have this drive to be with another guy. They don't want to risk sti's so they stick with watching each other masturbate. They join the same gyms or clubs, that way nobody ever suspects something when a group of friends go out together.

 These men identify as straight or straight-ish, I guess the straight-ish is their sheepish way of admitting some degree of bisexuality. I know it's wrong of me to say they are not straight and they can call themselves whatever they want to but again if I think about myself, it doesn't make sense. Since most of you are gay reading this, would you but in the effort of finding women who like to sleep with gay men? Would you place adds, go through dating sites, drive across town to special adult shops and theaters, all to find a woman when you claim to like only men? I think if we were slightly obsessed with finding women as well as men, doesn't that make us bisexual?

  This is all part of the interesting subject known as male sexuality. I am not judging anyone here, call yourself whatever you want or don't want to be called. Either way I find it fascinating, most people have no clue what is really going on around them. I think you will see more and more of this with the younger generation as homosexual attractions becomes much more acceptable. In fact at work, many of the young men see being bigoted towards gay people on the same level as saying the "n" word and that's fantastic. I was reading recently where men in college are seeking affection from each other instead of from women, they said it was easier as women make relationships complicated, that may soon translate into sex as well but most guys so far said no, that they draw the line at sex. However if a good number of guys actually do have some degree of bisexuality and are raised that there is nothing wrong with it, many may form friends with benefits type partnerships. I think that would be good for society in one way because people would have a more open mind about sexuality, the drawback could be guys that are lazy about putting any effort into a relationship.