Wednesday, July 31, 2019

Evening out.. meh.


 I had some extra free time this afternoon and I thought I would try to get James to come out. Don't get me wrong, James is a really sweet man but sometimes I wish he was a lot less passive. I called him up and tried to invite him out to dinner, he said that he already ate around four and was full. I tried to get him to come out to a movie or something and spend a little time together. He felt that the evening was over and was getting late, in his defense it was almost five o'clock, boy hoo wee that's nearly half the night gone right there!

 I told him that I had called earlier and left a message. He said that the phone belongs to his roommate and he doesn't touch it when he is not around. He drives this old car so he never wants to meet anywhere more than fifteen minutes away from home in case the car dies. I sort of hurt his feelings last week. He has been talking about buying a new car for almost a year now. Finally I told him to take the plunge and stop talking about it, that his old car was limiting him and trapping him. That didn't go over well and he suggested that maybe we were not meant to be friends. I apologized for trying to tell him what to do, something he doesn't like from someone that is younger than him, ouch, I've been told!

 If another gay friend called and asked me to get together, I would... even if I just ate. I would go out, I would talk and laugh and share stories, I would make that connection. It was almost five o'clock however... time for bed?

14 comments:

Deedles said...

Wow! James sounds like me! How old is he?

Mistress Maddie said...

What did I tell you. Stick in the mud. 5 o clock getting late?!?!?!?!?! Early bird dinner at 4?!?!?!


Where the hell does he live? Shady Pines? You made me laugh in this post.

Old Lurker said...

Uh oh. If I go around telling people what to do it means I cannot be friends? (That explains a lot, actually.)

Don't worry. In about four months James will be correct, because it will be dark by 5pm. Then there will be no reason to go outside. But in the meantime can't you ask some of your other Grindr friends?

Sixpence Notthewiser said...

Five is too late? I’m with Maddie here. That’s some Shady Pines malarkey right here, early bird dinner and all.
And damn. Roommate, old ratchet car and all? I’d be more than willing to go out because boy, that doesn’t sound like a lot of fun.

XoXo

LOL @lurkie

Richard said...

I think he's trying to tell you he's still upset with you.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Deedles, he is late fifties but I know people his age that I can't keep up with.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Maddie, lol Shady Pines, you're golden! I felt like asking him that but I'm already in the bad books!

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Old Lurker, nooooo no no no, you shall not speak of the dark times, (whispers) it's forbidden.
Apparently we are not allowed to strongly make suggestions. I don't think anyone past twenty six is allowed to use grindr.

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Sixpence, that's how I was put in the friend dog house, trying to encourage him to live a little. I took myself out to dinner... and I got lucky with myself later too! Lol

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Richard, no we are good now, we talked it out. This is actually very normal for his personality, we made future plans. He's a really nice guy.

Old Lurker said...

Oh no! I mentioned the dark times! What have I done?!

You are correct about Grindr, but I do not see how that is a problem for you?

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Old Lurker, shhh you don't want to wake the night dragon, it wants to banish the sunlight... the horror.. the horror!

Well if you are trying to get into my good book with that clearly butt kissing comment, you are so in there on page one right at the top!!!

larrymuffin said...

Dinner at 4pm? WTF. We have lunch at 3 pm most days and dinner at 8. Get a younger model on Instagram

Sooo-this-is-me said...

Laurent, he was the only guy in Ottawa that was too slow to run away from me!