Monday, January 7, 2019
Don't tell me what I know!
Sometimes I stumble into the non politically correct stereotypes regarding the gay world. In the past I have tried to talk about the differences between gay and straight men, how they carry themselves, body movements, style and voice. Usually that is a hornets nest and similar to a child poking the hornets nest with a stick, people come flying from every angle, wringing their hands saying, "no, no you're wrong, those are just stereotypes".
Today one of my closest friends sent me a picture of her children, nephews and nieces. I have watched some of them grow up, many I haven't seen since they were little. A great looking bunch of young men and women, now on their way into adulthood. Happy at how they have turned out but the photo was also causing a little sadness in me to see them becoming grown-ups.
I know that one of her nephews is gay and I knew just by looking at the photo, I would be able to pick him out. One young guy had really good style, (clue one), he had a really good haircut (clue two), slightly avant-garde jewelry on (clue three) he was in nice shape, as in he worked out and not for just health reasons (clue four) and there was something about the way he was standing. I picked the correct one out. Also there was another guy there and I was thinking he looked like a team player as well. Later I would find out that he was the boyfriend.
I have learned not to doubt my gaydar, even if they are married with five kids, sometimes years later I find out that they are gay. I know, I know, I know not everyone fits the stereotype but there are signals, signs and special connections that can be seen and felt between two members of the LGBTQ community, otherwise we would have never found each other in the bad old days. Lucky guy, starting out in life with a huge family behind him, boyfriend, career on the horizon and he is really cute too. Still however; no matter what people say about stereotypes, I was able to pick him out in a split second :p
Interesting fact, we may be hearing from him in the future.