Today for the first time ever in my life, I came out to someone at work. I wanted to tell the people I'm close to. A perfect opportunity came up and I did it. I was reading an email to a coworker and there happened to be a picture of someone I dated. I said to him, "this is my friend, he is also my ex... do you understand what I'm telling you"?
The guy was dumbfounded, he kept looking at the picture, I guess wondering why his brain wasn't seeing a woman. He turned red and was speechless, something not common for him lol. It was cute because I could tell he was struggling to be supportive and find the right words. Then he started talking rapidly from being nervous.
After the initial shock wore off, then we had a good conversation. He asked a lot of thoughtful questions which tell me instantly he understands. He told me not to be nervous about telling another of our co-workers, because that guy's brother who he is close to is gay, I didn't know that. It was the end of the day and before he left, he thanked me for placing my trust in him. That's something I love about telling people, they feel honoured that I place my trust in them and it brings us a little closer.
38 comments:
See? That wasn't so bad.
Jimmy sez: "It's about time!"
I’m so glad for you, Steven! I’m sure that’s a huge weight off your shoulders. Now you know you’ve got allies in the workplace.
So Proud!
You go! That's awesome.
The more you do it the easier it will get
The lighter you will feel
What John said ^^^^^^^
You constantly amaze me. I'm happy for you.
Yay!
I think it's awesome. It's not only 'telling them' it's reaffirming that you're still... you. Nothing has really changed.
XOXO
Good for you, Steven! The next step bravely taken!
GOODY!
Oh, darn! I was still hoping for the standing on a chair wearing tight shorts, waving a rainbow flag and throwing confetti scenario! Oh, well, subtlety has its rewards too. My first thought actually was Lurkster would be so proud.
Hugs, sugar pie!
Good for you.
Congratulations! It's great to feel comfortable in your own skin and be able to tell others.
That's so awesome!! Support, real support from those who understand is necessary.
Deedles: he only came out to one coworker. There is still time for him to play the glittery debutante.
I've got my fingers crossed, Lurkster. I won't hold my breath though.
BTW Stephen, your profile photo is fabulous. The beard! grrrrr...woof!
You getting locked down again? If so I hope you get through it okay. Are your freezers full?
Missing you, Steven.
Yo you shouldn't delete Jimmy's comments. He just wants to know if you are okay. We are gossiping about you on Sixpence's blog.
Are you two together?
No not so bad. I wanted to be able to say I am dating but it looks like that is never going to happen.
HuntleyBiGuy, it's actually meh.. I was never one to socialize with coworkers.
Jimmy, well I hope so, I did it specifically for you! No just joking.
John soon there will be nobody left to tell. Lol
Bob.. what I said to John! Hahaha!
Thank you buddy, I should have done this 25 years ago but I can't change the past.
Sixpence, no I have changed, now I'm Richard Simons riding in on a unicorn every morning. You know, go big or go home! Hahaha!
Thank you Debra, I have it down to a science now!
Hello beautiful, was that you Anne Marie who gave the prez covid? Lol you missed!
Deedles that was the next day, plus riding in on a unicorn!
Thank you Dave!
Jeremy, yes you are completely right, comfortable in my own skin is a good way of describing it.
Thank you Jennifer!
Thanks JM, I was thinking about you the other day. I'm always so proud in how you embraced being gay and succeeded.
Old Lurker, covid is slowing down my dramatic moments! Lol
Deedles, hi sweetie pie, you are like a sunrise filled with birdsong to me!
Thank you Jimmy! ;)
Lurky, yes freezers are full. Looks like they are trying to avoid a total lockdown. Ottawa is starting to trend back down in numbers. Hopefully people wake the heck up. My work is saying they won't shutdown this time.
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