Tuesday, September 29, 2020

The last obstacle.

  Today for the first time ever in my life, I came out to someone at work. I wanted to tell the people I'm close to. A perfect opportunity came up and I did it. I was reading an email to a coworker and there happened to be a picture of someone I dated. I said to him, "this is my friend, he is also my ex... do you understand what I'm telling you"?

 The guy was dumbfounded, he kept looking at the picture, I guess wondering why his brain wasn't seeing a woman. He turned red and was speechless, something not common for him lol. It was cute because I could tell he was struggling to be supportive and find the right words. Then he started talking rapidly from being nervous.

 After the initial shock wore off, then we had a good conversation. He asked a lot of thoughtful questions which tell me instantly he understands. He told me not to be nervous about telling another of our co-workers, because that guy's brother who he is close to is gay, I didn't know that. It was the end of the day and before he left, he thanked me for placing my trust in him. That's something I love about telling people, they feel honoured that I place my trust in them and it brings us a little closer.




18 comments:

Old Lurker said...

See? That wasn't so bad.

Jimmy sez: "It's about time!"

HuntleyBiGuy said...

I’m so glad for you, Steven! I’m sure that’s a huge weight off your shoulders. Now you know you’ve got allies in the workplace.

Jimmy said...

So Proud!

Jennifer said...

You go! That's awesome.

John Going Gently said...

The more you do it the easier it will get
The lighter you will feel

Bob said...

What John said ^^^^^^^

RJ said...

You constantly amaze me. I'm happy for you.

Sixpence Notthewiser said...

Yay!
I think it's awesome. It's not only 'telling them' it's reaffirming that you're still... you. Nothing has really changed.

XOXO

Debra She Who Seeks said...

Good for you, Steven! The next step bravely taken!

anne marie in philly said...

GOODY!

Deedles said...

Oh, darn! I was still hoping for the standing on a chair wearing tight shorts, waving a rainbow flag and throwing confetti scenario! Oh, well, subtlety has its rewards too. My first thought actually was Lurkster would be so proud.
Hugs, sugar pie!

Dave R said...

Good for you.

Jeremy Ryan said...

Congratulations! It's great to feel comfortable in your own skin and be able to tell others.

JM said...

That's so awesome!! Support, real support from those who understand is necessary.

Old Lurker said...

Deedles: he only came out to one coworker. There is still time for him to play the glittery debutante.

Deedles said...

I've got my fingers crossed, Lurkster. I won't hold my breath though.

Jimmy said...

BTW Stephen, your profile photo is fabulous. The beard! grrrrr...woof!

Old Lurker said...

You getting locked down again? If so I hope you get through it okay. Are your freezers full?