Gay people need to keep in mind the dangers of meeting strangers for sex. I guess if I'm writing a gay-ish blog, then I need to include the dark side. Especially men who are into the rougher, no strings hook ups with people they just met.
I am talking about what is being uncovered in the Toronto area. They arrested a 66 year old gay man who they suspect now of being a serial killer. They have the remains of five men so far, it gets worse. He runs a landscape business and they are finding body parts buried in the large planters of his customers, police are asking anyone who used him as a landscaper to come forward, as you may have someone buried on your property and not know it. They suspect there could be many more than already found. I can think of times where gay men from Ottawa went missing and as far as I know, no trace was ever found.
This guy was the perfect predator, had his own business, took part in a fundraiser, met gay friends on line, even worked as a Santa Claus for Christmas..... chills, chills, chills! He had a thing for mostly middle eastern men but also targeted homeless men, I imagine because missing immigrants and homeless men would not be noticed. I can't help thinking that some of the gay middle eastern men moved to Canada out of fear for their safety, only to be killed in such a horrible way here, makes me sick and so sad. The final chilling thing was when the police kicked down the door to arrest "it", he had a young man tied up. Imagine how that guy feels now, thinking he was going to have a kinky even of fun, only to learn he was tied up by a serial killer.
I hope gay men (or anyone actually), take a step back and plan things out better when meeting someone new, especially meeting someone online. This should be a warning, you don't know what you are getting into. There definitely is a huge part of the gay culture that likes to practice risky behaviors or a mixing of pain and pleasure. I am not judging those people, that is not my thing but if they are having fun, not my business, I'm just saying take care, be cautious. From some of what I understand though, he may have met with and became friends with, some of these guys. That frightens me most of all, because if someone makes friends with me, seems like a normal guy, plays Santa and runs a business dealing with clients I don't think I would have seen the danger coming either!
I hope later on there is a review on how the police handle this investigation. I am not mentioning "its" name here on my blog but if you want to read more about the investigation, search (Toronto gay serial killer).
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Goodness! I've been following the development of these news since you made us aware of it a few posts ago. Truly horrifying. There are risks to hooking-up online or using apps that get folk in trouble. We're living in crazy times. Stay safe!
"Gay people need to keep in mind the dangers of meeting strangers for sex"
With tindr Grindr etc
Everyone should be worried
Walter, I think it probably would catch a lot of people off guard that he is a senior and not scary looking either. Makes me wonder if he's been doing this all his life. Cutting people up, what kind of a warped mind must this guy have!
That is pretty scary. I hadn't heard about this story yet. I have never been into the apps and don't have them. I like to meet men the old fashioned way...when I'm out. I was talking to a guy out once. We started talking, and had conversation for about two hours before he suggested going to his place. He wanted to act out a fantasy he had. Basically he wanted a guy on his massage table in underwear in the dark with just candles. He left the place we were, and gave me his address. Once there he wanted me to come in, head down stairs and undress and lay on the table. It was a very dumb thing to do. Probably the drink got the better of me. Luckily we had a good time and it was rather steamy, and we saw each other many more times till it tapered off. But looking back I know I was very nervous and was damn lucky. Anything could have happened. I never did anything like that again.
John, yes sorry I screwed up, I was rearranging the first paragraph and must have deleted a section in brackets saying that very same thing. Everyone needs to be careful. At the same time though hooking up seems to be.... almost part of gay culture for many guys. Even I tried it.
Maddie, sometimes I mention I had a friend with benefits. I went to his place, he had a cottage about three miles into total wilderness with no neighbors around at all. We also had a great time but I never told anyone where I was going, I would have been in real trouble if he was a freak!
Just noticed your avatar is that you?
One doesn't usually suspect a benign looking 66-year old man. This is so creepy. This makes me never want to venture out into the app dating pool.
John, yes that's me, taken a few years ago. Scary? Lol
Michael54, the hook up sites can seem exciting in fantasy but you will not find a decent partner there.... usually.
I agree with the benign comment, that is what is so unsettling.
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