Getting older is a negative part of life but it's better than the alternative. I am not happy about it but there is nothing I can do about it so everyone say it with me "IT IS, WHAT IT IS"! I will blog later about some of the things that upset me but there are many days where I can't stand to hear one more complaint or judgement because someone got older. Basically, so you got older, big deal, you did nothing wrong, it's not your fault.
I want to talk about some positive moments that happened to me and I feel good about them. I have noticed myself becoming strongly attracted to older men, certain salt and pepper guys, balding guys, men getting that distinguished look to them. I feel really good about this because I and my friends are entering into these phases of our lives. I was worried about being one of those guys that only likes men half their age. Don't get me wrong, a twenty five year old is still hot, just I haven't cornered myself. I feel comfortable with guys around my age or older.
A few weeks ago, I was standing in line at a local coffee shop, when this older man in front of me, guessed who I was because of my resemblance to my father. He is an older brother of someone I know but we had never met before. We were talking for a while and he mentioned that he had just turned 61. The funny thing was the whole time he was talking to me, I couldn't help notice what a fantastic ass the man had. In my head all I could think about was that I would totally tap that! He would say stuff like he just wanted to grab a coffee and I was thinking, I just want to grab you. I bet it's firm, I bet it makes a cute sound when playfully slapped! I WANT to see it in the shower!
Same as an elderly neighbour came here one day and asked me if I would help his nephew fix the elderly man's ceiling. His nephew is probably 55 or 56 years, tall about 6'2, salt and pepper hair. The kind of older guy that looks after himself, eats properly, still plays hockey etc. My job was to hold the ladder steady as he made repairs to the ceiling. It was warm and this guy was wearing only Under Armour shorts and t-shirt. Well.... you absolutely can't believe the body on this guy and the clothes were showing it off perfectly. His legs were hot, the hair still dark, they were connected to the hottest butt on an older man I ever saw in the real world. You could bounce a quarter off that butt! Broad shoulders, nice arms, whatever workout he was doing, was working out! I had to spend all morning holding the ladder and looking up at that body. When I came home, no joking, I was probably as close to a male coming into heat as possible. He affected me for days, I couldn't find any older guy on line that even could come close to the way he made me feel, and when I say feel, I mean in an erotic, lustful, excited way. I think that older man turned me on in a way that I had never felt before. I kept getting crazy hardons every time I thought about helping him. I feel good about this, I think it's a healthy way to see aging, we're still the same people, just with a little rust around the joints, just because we are getting older doesn't mean we can't have a little fun with it. ;)
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When I was twenty-seven, I was told I had AIDS and had six months to live. I cherish each day I have been given but I still find aging difficult to accept. I find younger guys nice to admire but I’d rather be with guys closer to my age. I have met some hot guys over fifty but most seem to want a younger guy.
RJ, I often wondered about you since the day you mentioned you are positive. That must have been terrifying to hear. Especially back then, it was a death sentence to be told you are positive. I really feel for you, I never really asked you about it, I wasn't sure if you didn't want to talk about it.
Yes RJ, aging is difficult to accept, it's ok to feel that way about it. I will probably start blogging about that later on. True, most older men want younger men, I didn't want to be one of them.
RJ, can I ask how long ago you learned you were positive? I am woefully uninformed about current status of reasearch and treatments.
Steven, today's post is too hot to touch! From the earliest stirrings, I have always been attracted to older men. Now I are one! Since my younger friend has passed on, no one looks at my silver hair or contemplates bouncing quarters off my butt with anything close to lust but you give me hope. As for fear of aging, it's not the quantity of years that distresses me, it's the failing plumbing and aching joints.
As I age I am less and less convinced that it is better than the alternative.
This is another April Fool's prank, isn't it? Holding a ladder as some hot older guy wearing only under armour and a t-shirt toils above you? Yeah, right. You've been watching those "educational films" again, haven't you?
Steve & Mike - It was frightening because it was a death sentence in 1984. I was the first of my group to be diagnosed. I watched my partner die and most of my friends. It was a dark time in my life. I was waiting to die and it didn’t happen. I’ve been positive for 34 years, most of my adult life. Feel free to ask me anything. Just be prepared to hear the answer, which may shock you, depending upon the question.
Mike, I bet you would be surprised by the guys that secretly find you attractive. I always found guys a little older than me attractive, my boyfriends were older than me by two years and my special friend was about four or five years older. I didn't plan it that way it just happened. I know quality of life begins to go downhill but that is for another post, this was about still living and embracing fun moments.
Mr Lurker, says the man who went out dancing! Actually I understand your point and I know I will feel that way too, but I can't do anything about it so I will cross that bridge when I come to it (or jump off). I think you are being a smarty pants as usual but you may be behind the times, so you do know that Under Armour is a design of sports wear clothing. It hugs the body to show off your tone. No I wasn't joking about the hot guy, he even smelled nice Mr Lurker!
RJ, actually would you feel comfortable emailing me? I can't see an email address for you. I don't want to start asking you questions on the comments section. Don't worry about shocking me, I only expect the truth, it's always what I want and I don't expect you to answer everything I ask, you can always say that something is too personal. I am pretty ignorant about hiv and aids as well.
I'm an older men! I have a ladder! Does that count?
RJ, I can only guess how frightening that time was for you. I was 33 in 1984. I lost several friends, including my dear office mate, one of our orphan holiday dinner friends (Bob and I hosted dinners for people who had nowhere to go or were disowned -- sadly all too common). And our house cleaner. You inspected every little blemish for signs of karposy's. I remember getting an infection 'down there' and being afraid to mention AIDS to my doctor. I asked around for a doctor who'd treat AIDS, it turned out to be a UTI. We worried about getting AIDS from kissing, shaking hands, toilet seats, everything.
Are you taking medications?
I recently lost a young friend. He had frequent sex (bottom), refused to use a condom, relied on PREP, and got tested for HIV twice a month. Always negative. And it seemed like a normal life to him. I figured he get HIV but no, he died from unrelated brain cancer.
I have always preceded older guys over younger....Daddy Warbucks who I see if older, nice build, salt and pepper with the five o clock shadow and glass. Till I settle down, he is the yin to the Lads yang.
Steven - sent an email from an aol account. I know it's out of fashion but it's the one I use for blog related communications.
Mike - I been on so many drugs I can't remember all of them. I currently take Triumeq. One pill a day.
It's good to know that somewhere in this world some body will fancy you!
(Spoken by a 55 year old )
Walter, you don't need a ladder! Do you look good in shorts and t-shirt? I want to strip naked in the woods with you as we sit around a bonfire and put ceremonial paint onto each other to honour the forest! :)
Maddie, like I said before, it's really hard for me to hate you when I like you so much! Two men! Really! Really Maddie... two! Stop rubbing it in, (no pun intended). Plus they are at both ends of the dating pool so you get the best of both worlds, save some of the guys for the rest of us! :)
RJ, can you try again please, I didn't receive it, I just got a message saying someone was trying to send a message. Thank you.
John there are whole websites dedicated to guys who like older men, now older men who also happen to like poultry.... now that's f...ing hot in my books!!!
Lol what website is that?
John there is a site with an older cute gay daddy bear who writes about his husband and likes poultry called Going Gently.... hahaha!
You tease.
Seriously?
Uhm...I'm at a loss for words.
Walter, lol I just wanted to shock you.... and it worked! No I am very very shy, that would never happen!!! :)
So tempted to "educate" poor John re: older4me, daddydater, etc, but he is such an innocent.
Salt n Peppa - push it push it - push it real good.
I hope I become a salt and pepper - I’m slowly falling to bits.
JP
Oops Mr Lurker I didn't notice you guys slipped in later. Yes leave poor innocent John alone, anyway he already has a husband so he doesn't need to know your dirty dating secrets! ;)
JP, why is it that I picture you in my head singing that to Guido while holding a slice of pizza? You're British, don't let your bits fall off.
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