Today for the first time ever in my life, I came out to someone at work. I wanted to tell the people I'm close to. A perfect opportunity came up and I did it. I was reading an email to a coworker and there happened to be a picture of someone I dated. I said to him, "this is my friend, he is also my ex... do you understand what I'm telling you"?
The guy was dumbfounded, he kept looking at the picture, I guess wondering why his brain wasn't seeing a woman. He turned red and was speechless, something not common for him lol. It was cute because I could tell he was struggling to be supportive and find the right words. Then he started talking rapidly from being nervous.
After the initial shock wore off, then we had a good conversation. He asked a lot of thoughtful questions which tell me instantly he understands. He told me not to be nervous about telling another of our co-workers, because that guy's brother who he is close to is gay, I didn't know that. It was the end of the day and before he left, he thanked me for placing my trust in him. That's something I love about telling people, they feel honoured that I place my trust in them and it brings us a little closer.
See? That wasn't so bad.
ReplyDeleteJimmy sez: "It's about time!"
Are you two together?
DeleteNo not so bad. I wanted to be able to say I am dating but it looks like that is never going to happen.
I’m so glad for you, Steven! I’m sure that’s a huge weight off your shoulders. Now you know you’ve got allies in the workplace.
ReplyDeleteHuntleyBiGuy, it's actually meh.. I was never one to socialize with coworkers.
DeleteSo Proud!
ReplyDeleteJimmy, well I hope so, I did it specifically for you! No just joking.
DeleteYou go! That's awesome.
ReplyDeleteThank you Jennifer!
DeleteThe more you do it the easier it will get
ReplyDeleteThe lighter you will feel
John soon there will be nobody left to tell. Lol
DeleteWhat John said ^^^^^^^
ReplyDeleteBob.. what I said to John! Hahaha!
DeleteYou constantly amaze me. I'm happy for you.
ReplyDeleteThank you buddy, I should have done this 25 years ago but I can't change the past.
DeleteYay!
ReplyDeleteI think it's awesome. It's not only 'telling them' it's reaffirming that you're still... you. Nothing has really changed.
XOXO
Sixpence, no I have changed, now I'm Richard Simons riding in on a unicorn every morning. You know, go big or go home! Hahaha!
DeleteGood for you, Steven! The next step bravely taken!
ReplyDeleteThank you Debra, I have it down to a science now!
DeleteGOODY!
ReplyDeleteHello beautiful, was that you Anne Marie who gave the prez covid? Lol you missed!
DeleteOh, darn! I was still hoping for the standing on a chair wearing tight shorts, waving a rainbow flag and throwing confetti scenario! Oh, well, subtlety has its rewards too. My first thought actually was Lurkster would be so proud.
ReplyDeleteHugs, sugar pie!
Deedles that was the next day, plus riding in on a unicorn!
DeleteGood for you.
ReplyDeleteThank you Dave!
DeleteCongratulations! It's great to feel comfortable in your own skin and be able to tell others.
ReplyDeleteJeremy, yes you are completely right, comfortable in my own skin is a good way of describing it.
DeleteThat's so awesome!! Support, real support from those who understand is necessary.
ReplyDeleteThanks JM, I was thinking about you the other day. I'm always so proud in how you embraced being gay and succeeded.
DeleteDeedles: he only came out to one coworker. There is still time for him to play the glittery debutante.
ReplyDeleteOld Lurker, covid is slowing down my dramatic moments! Lol
DeleteI've got my fingers crossed, Lurkster. I won't hold my breath though.
ReplyDeleteDeedles, hi sweetie pie, you are like a sunrise filled with birdsong to me!
DeleteBTW Stephen, your profile photo is fabulous. The beard! grrrrr...woof!
ReplyDeleteThank you Jimmy! ;)
DeleteYou getting locked down again? If so I hope you get through it okay. Are your freezers full?
ReplyDeleteMissing you, Steven.
ReplyDeleteYo you shouldn't delete Jimmy's comments. He just wants to know if you are okay. We are gossiping about you on Sixpence's blog.
ReplyDeleteLurky, yes freezers are full. Looks like they are trying to avoid a total lockdown. Ottawa is starting to trend back down in numbers. Hopefully people wake the heck up. My work is saying they won't shutdown this time.
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