tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post4277600472689585022..comments2024-02-24T15:33:47.064-05:00Comments on Sooo-this-is-me: The Fear Of? Sooo-this-is-mehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-47705048016274307352018-03-28T01:32:18.931-04:002018-03-28T01:32:18.931-04:00JP, if you could find me a cute chief that would c...JP, if you could find me a cute chief that would cook for me to, that would be a great start!Sooo-this-is-mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-27596814642367710482018-03-27T18:24:51.658-04:002018-03-27T18:24:51.658-04:00You mention fear, at least twice. That makes me fe...You mention fear, at least twice. That makes me feel sad. Love can be an oxymoron - so if you feel you can, turn it on it’s head.<br />JP xAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-11930788644556512422018-03-27T18:05:18.818-04:002018-03-27T18:05:18.818-04:00Mike, what did you say, were you using swear words...Mike, what did you say, were you using swear words at me??? That's ok I know you wouldn't do that.Sooo-this-is-mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-49087544278591061782018-03-27T18:02:33.694-04:002018-03-27T18:02:33.694-04:00Mr Lurker, you had me at (1), even if you are a b...Mr Lurker, you had me at (1), even if you are a bit of a jerkface, lololol! Just teasing.Sooo-this-is-mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-69426600088588520162018-03-27T17:59:48.479-04:002018-03-27T17:59:48.479-04:00RJ, lol I know it's harder than it sounds, tha...RJ, lol I know it's harder than it sounds, that's why I posted! ;)<br />Rejection stings, I also don't put much effort into finding someone.Sooo-this-is-mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-24478839807874958422018-03-27T07:46:18.068-04:002018-03-27T07:46:18.068-04:00This comment has been removed by the author.Mikehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17684866399108890647noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-6315362827939333172018-03-26T22:31:40.679-04:002018-03-26T22:31:40.679-04:00(1) is not a choice. It is a certainty. No matter ...(1) is not a choice. It is a certainty. No matter what you do you will hurt while being in a relationship. But you are also hurting not being in a relationship.<br /><br />(2) is highly likely too. You will develop irritations about your boyfriend and vice versa, because unless you are JP you are not perfect. But couples all over the world learn to deal with each other's irritations and love each other despite them. Often they find themselves missing those same irritations when they are apart from each other. <br /><br />(3) could very well be the case. Many long-time singletons grow so used to their own habits that they find adjusting to others difficult. Is the effort saved in not having to adjust to anybody worth being a lonely spinster for the rest of your days?<br /><br />(4) is the mind killer. It is hogwash, not only because you are a catch but also because if you keep listening to (4) then you are GUARANTEED to be alone forever. Maybe (4) is true, but it is probably not, and you won't find out if you don't start looking. <br /><br />(Yes, I know you know these things intellectually, and that none of this rationalist nonsense is helping. That Mr Lurker is a total jerkface. But he wishes he had the words to spur on your courage somehow.) Old Lurkerhttps://oldlurker974.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-81497220380613661562018-03-26T21:59:19.504-04:002018-03-26T21:59:19.504-04:00I could have written the last paragraph of your po...I could have written the last paragraph of your post. I never thought I would be single and 61. I have a great life. It's a life I'd to share but I can't find a guy to share it with. I'm so fearful of rejection that I put next to no effort into finding a man to date. The handful of dates I've had were single interactions. I need to overcome my fear and put myself out there. It's harder than it sounds.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-39285401505260409522018-03-26T21:37:48.312-04:002018-03-26T21:37:48.312-04:00John, I guess things can work out for the better. ...John, I guess things can work out for the better. When I started dating Dan, he was already out to everyone. Even though he was patient with me I knew it would be wrong to put him back in but it wasn't that hard telling people he was my boyfriend because I wanted everyone to know. I want that again, to be in a relationship that I want the world to know about.<br /><br />Maddie, well I already luv you so it's a deal, can we keep the Lad too? I think my new fear however would be getting killed by you in the sack!<br /><br />Michael54, I understand completely, you have been more than once bitten, your arm was nearly chewed off! That's why I say take your time, then you can dip that size eleven in the water.Sooo-this-is-mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-36066122880756087522018-03-26T21:20:01.100-04:002018-03-26T21:20:01.100-04:00I agree with Mistress Maddie in that things happen...I agree with Mistress Maddie in that things happen when one doesn't expect it. I totally understand what you mean about being afraid. After years in a dysfunctional relationship, I hesitate to even put my foot in the water. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-91090432601635077902018-03-26T20:34:44.305-04:002018-03-26T20:34:44.305-04:00I meant to say your reason #3!!!! Is why I hesitat...I meant to say your reason #3!!!! Is why I hesitate.Mistress Maddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02098940220513091207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-32442891199715732462018-03-26T20:33:13.636-04:002018-03-26T20:33:13.636-04:00I have long said when one doesn't expect it......I have long said when one doesn't expect it....the universe will come thought and surprise us.<br /><br />I feel I can be in a relationship....but I think your #4 is the big reason I hesitate.<br /><br />Should we just make a pac if by a certain age we aren't settled, we will just get together?!? I will behave my smart Karen Walker mouth.LOL,LOL,LOL,LOL<br /><br />I love Canada! I spent a whole summer their a couple years ago! Mistress Maddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02098940220513091207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-38371973227170241132018-03-26T17:50:14.850-04:002018-03-26T17:50:14.850-04:00For many years I learnt to be self sufficient
No ...For many years I learnt to be self sufficient <br />No relationship except for friends and family<br />So any gay relationship was either a bonus or expendable <br /><br />Then I met my previous partner who was a shit, a closet gay man who denied me in public, but who wanted all of the positive perks of a gay relationship <br />I dumped him.......then found the Prof! Go figureJohn Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.com