tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post3066204268141975290..comments2024-02-24T15:33:47.064-05:00Comments on Sooo-this-is-me: Over a Cliff Again.Sooo-this-is-mehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-31253247110879579152019-03-25T19:44:03.351-04:002019-03-25T19:44:03.351-04:00I too have been there. My Grandfather had to go i...I too have been there. My Grandfather had to go into a nursing home (my Dad who would have handled all this passed unexpectedly at 58 so it fell to me and my Mom). We started off in one of those places and I felt much the same as you. Guilt, shame, etc. So I researched options, and we got him into a VA nursing home that had just been built in the state he lived in. It was the "crown jewel" as they called it, of the entire VA system. It was indeed a blessing. A great place, clean, great staff, etc. I know there is nothing like that option for you but I share that to say don't give up. Get with your sister, find some other options and don't give in to those feelings. You'll get through this. <br /><br />Hugs to you!1st Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04861609647607912193noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-1899663787680700232019-03-24T11:02:39.492-04:002019-03-24T11:02:39.492-04:00The other commenters have given good advice. I wi...The other commenters have given good advice. I wish I could give you a big hug. It will get better.Richardhttps://rjjs8878.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-32516703678551177942019-03-23T20:01:21.683-04:002019-03-23T20:01:21.683-04:00Government-run facilities are the pits. When I was...Government-run facilities are the pits. When I was in my early teens I went to an "Old Folks Home" as part of a charity group with my Catholic youth group at my church. I was not ready for the disparity and abuse that I saw that ran rampant. Yes the smell is bad, I remember it to this day and when my time comes I will commit suicide rather than end up in one of those places. Talk to your sister and quickly look for better options. There is help out there. Good luck and I hope you are successful for your sanity as well as your mom's sake.Leannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02313664441343901006noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-60221056944179825612019-03-23T16:10:57.128-04:002019-03-23T16:10:57.128-04:00I agree with Jimmy. Find help/advice ASAP. You gu...I agree with Jimmy. Find help/advice ASAP. You guys may be able to mitigate this unfortunate situation and maybe find a better solution. <br />Best of luck, bae. 👬Sixpence Notthewiserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11230453585589265578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-52843567306927027882019-03-23T13:35:53.638-04:002019-03-23T13:35:53.638-04:00I agree that this is an awful development, but I d...I agree that this is an awful development, but I don't think it is "your fault". You made the best decision you could given the circumstances.<br /><br />I am tempted to give you advice but I am sure you and Sis are thinking through all the possibilities, and that you are going to do what is best. If you can make one of those possibilities work (even for the short term) then you might consider it.<br /><br />Hearing that you are not getting sleep worries me. That is a great way to invite another disaster. Can you see a therapist to talk through this? (I am being serious, by the way.) Old Lurkerhttps://oldlurker974.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-24859671427993797222019-03-23T13:32:51.441-04:002019-03-23T13:32:51.441-04:00Jimmy is right and bob is too
This is too big an ...Jimmy is right and bob is too <br />This is too big an issue to fight in its entirety <br />Take that deep breath and look calmly at your options John Going Gentlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14958171262765033946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-26680142766673226872019-03-23T12:45:21.697-04:002019-03-23T12:45:21.697-04:00My only sibling was groomed to take care of my par...My only sibling was groomed to take care of my parents. My sister died before my mother and here I was - clueless and alone to make decisions. Talk to a professional, whether religious or medical, for options, plans, and solutions that are best for YOU and your mom. And, take care of YOUR total self and well-being as well. You must be able to go to bed at night and know you did the best you could.<br /><br />It's a tough situation.<br /><br /> Jimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06497874766764411664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-23741825301371094892019-03-23T11:45:50.656-04:002019-03-23T11:45:50.656-04:00Can you move her back? I would be concerned too.Can you move her back? I would be concerned too.RBhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17761591668246881356noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-26046714762797632242019-03-23T11:26:11.510-04:002019-03-23T11:26:11.510-04:00I'm so sorry, baby! That sounds like a place w...I'm so sorry, baby! That sounds like a place well suited for my late mother but not anyone else's. I agree with Bob. Breathe, talk, get it done. I wish I could wrap you up in my flabby arms and semi-ample bosom because cyber hugs seem so ineffectual at this time. My arm flaps would make you feel so much better. Talk to someone, anyone!Deedleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17220174067034720943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-1561979897724274282019-03-23T10:50:54.560-04:002019-03-23T10:50:54.560-04:00Take a breath and talk with your sister.
You'l...Take a breath and talk with your sister.<br />You'll get it done.Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15302478126147924237noreply@blogger.com