tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post1576257850698732430..comments2024-02-24T15:33:47.064-05:00Comments on Sooo-this-is-me: Unwanted People.Sooo-this-is-mehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comBlogger24125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-31693940882340949572020-01-27T06:08:55.376-05:002020-01-27T06:08:55.376-05:00Coming out is (and was) difficult for some people....Coming out is (and was) difficult for some people.<br />Without the queens at Stonewall there would not be gay rights movement in the US.<br />Canada was no piece of cake either. <br />The whole world has had to move on and show progress and so have we. <br />I still think coming out is deeply personal. That is, unless the person is a vocal homophobe. Then, no holds barred. <br /><br />XOXOSixpence Notthewiserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11230453585589265578noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-41451906919679671452020-01-27T00:35:15.077-05:002020-01-27T00:35:15.077-05:00Why do you think Steven's been so quiet this w...Why do you think Steven's been so quiet this weekend? He's either visiting his mom, playing curling, or having sexcapades (but hopefully not all three at once). But I doubt we will hear about said sexcapades -- he saves those for his REAL friends on his other blog.Old Lurkerhttps://oldlurker974.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-58431093017428271512020-01-26T17:06:25.545-05:002020-01-26T17:06:25.545-05:00Lurkie: I missed that article and I feel like I...Lurkie: I missed that article and I feel like I've given Pete a million bucks as well.<br />I'm guessing you are single, because it wasn't what my husband went through at work, it was what he and I went through as a couple while he was working for that company in a smallish community. It is a 24 hour a day game to not be out. I'm not good at lying but a master at being deceitful coming from the old days . And deceit is a hard pill to cope with long term.<br /><br />I wish we'd discuss Stephens sexcapades. More fun.Jimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06497874766764411664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-38784584316727573262020-01-26T15:54:43.110-05:002020-01-26T15:54:43.110-05:00Steven, my 40s were some of my most gloriously slu...Steven, my 40s were some of my most gloriously slutty years. Just saying. <br /><br />Vivian Swifthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12198077488226047493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-56394406992731027742020-01-26T15:15:04.873-05:002020-01-26T15:15:04.873-05:00Don't apologise, Jimmy.
I am not trying to d...Don't apologise, Jimmy. <br /><br />I am not trying to discredit the experience your husband went through. There still is an Old Boys Club, and there still are workplaces where it is risky to come out. But in many places cisgendered white gays are welcomed into the Old Boys Club, which is one reason <a href="https://www.marketwatch.com/story/buttigieg-leads-2020-rivals-in-wall-street-contributions-2019-12-21" rel="nofollow">Wall Street loves Pete Buttigieg</a>. Old Lurkerhttps://oldlurker974.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-131873548535446752020-01-26T12:56:08.319-05:002020-01-26T12:56:08.319-05:00Christina, that doesn't explain MAGAts and cor...Christina, that doesn't explain MAGAts and corrupt politicians. Some people know better and don't care.Deedleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17220174067034720943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-20047369926144640652020-01-26T12:26:16.073-05:002020-01-26T12:26:16.073-05:00I'm a great believer in "when we know bet...I'm a great believer in "when we know better, we do better"<br />XxChristinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16093533351238991113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-16635451827268845752020-01-26T10:35:48.425-05:002020-01-26T10:35:48.425-05:00Well, maybe being a younger/newer follower here, p...Well, maybe being a younger/newer follower here, perhaps I spoke out of turn.Jimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06497874766764411664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-5610528656307938822020-01-26T09:11:43.057-05:002020-01-26T09:11:43.057-05:00Debra: Let us not forget that Jesus is watching ev...Debra: Let us not forget that Jesus is watching everything you do, and also Ceiling Cat watches some of the things you do. <br /><br />Also you are wrong about getting old, because many of the people whom you spent time impressing (or those who appreciated you and your work) are also likely to be dead or have one foot in the grave. It's as if all that good sentiment never happened. Old Lurkerhttps://oldlurker974.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-16950250518866820312020-01-26T09:06:47.106-05:002020-01-26T09:06:47.106-05:00Yes, Steven might have an oppressive workplace whe...Yes, Steven might have an oppressive workplace where coming out would threaten his career. Evidence for this includes: most of his coworkers expressing support for gays whenever the topic comes up at lunchtime, and other employees at the company successfully coming out as trans. <br /><br />Old Lurkerhttps://oldlurker974.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-67097084758307058132020-01-26T00:14:04.894-05:002020-01-26T00:14:04.894-05:00Water under the bridge. Spilled milk. "Woulda...Water under the bridge. Spilled milk. "Woulda, coulda, shoulda" is a fool's game. All we can do is focus on today and try to make our hopes, plans and dreams come true in the future.<br /><br />Lately, I've been considering that one of the really nice things about getting old is that all those people who I made a fool of myself in front of or who went out of their way to punish or hurt me are now either all dead or got one foot in the grave. If I'm the only one left alive who remembers something, then fuck it, I'm golden! It's like it never happened.Debra She Who Seekshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01845703092794695023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-69124989611526801532020-01-25T23:50:05.671-05:002020-01-25T23:50:05.671-05:00Lurker, I was looking at what you said about AIDS....Lurker, I was looking at what you said about AIDS. Steven and his work persona is cemented and him coming out at work would have to be at a new job and new setting. I'll love him as he is. Though he needs to share those dick pics the guys have sent him.<br /><br />I remember when my husband could not come out at work. That was only twenty years ago. There still is that "Good Ole Boy", xtian, white privileged middle and upper management that have control of future promotions and careers. Or even work atmosphere for that matter. The post I don't want to see from future Steven is "Steven The Bag Lady" because he took suggestions from cyber-people he will never know or are nut jobs. (You excluded of course. xoxo)<br /><br />Although, we could set up a Go Fund Me page just in case.Jimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06497874766764411664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-4930359721986498062020-01-25T23:01:29.354-05:002020-01-25T23:01:29.354-05:00Guys, stop agreeing with me or Steven's going ...Guys, stop agreeing with me or Steven's going to chew me out again. <br /><br />Do you think that Future Steven will forgive Present Steven for being too chicken to come out at work? Maybe Future Steven will convince himself that Present Steven was STILL scared of being dragged away and interrogated?Old Lurkerhttps://oldlurker974.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-8046102618874574952020-01-25T22:45:50.712-05:002020-01-25T22:45:50.712-05:00You should be proud of surviving. You did what you...You should be proud of surviving. You did what you had to do. That was your previous life. You have a great future ahead of you. RJhttps://rjjs8878.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-22448083769054589432020-01-25T20:43:37.113-05:002020-01-25T20:43:37.113-05:00Bravo Lurker. Very well said.Bravo Lurker. Very well said.Jimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06497874766764411664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-27158485018107603962020-01-25T20:16:10.075-05:002020-01-25T20:16:10.075-05:00Thanks Lurkster. I never knew that Bigfoot was Can...Thanks Lurkster. I never knew that Bigfoot was Canadian!Deedleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17220174067034720943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-66232912937035785842020-01-25T18:33:39.952-05:002020-01-25T18:33:39.952-05:00"Relatively sane", huh?
Deedles: It'..."Relatively sane", huh?<br /><br />Deedles: It's spelled "Saskatchewan".<br /><br />Let's not forget that we weren't dying of AIDS at first. At first it was "Gay Cancer", and then "GRID". But yes, those were difficult times. And you know, I do not blame the straights for freaking out, at least in the early years before we had a better idea of what HIV was and how it was transmitted. The next time there is some outbreak and government officials urge us to be calm and tell us that "oh no the virus can't be transmitted in that way," then I will probably be skeptical too. But at the same time, it was hard for the gays, and a lot of the reaction of the straights was in fact borne of ignorance, because the straights were convinced THEY didn't know any homosexuals. I remember a juggling act in this century where one of the punchlines was "I don't hate gays. Some of my best friends know gay people."<br /><br />As for being questioned, the thing that stands out to me about that is that we STILL carry out interrogations in EXACTLY the same way, with EXACTLY the same lies ("Just confess. Nothing bad will happen to you." What nonsense). I am supposed to love the police for protecting property rights but I very much don't. <br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><br />Old Lurkerhttps://oldlurker974.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-57250144082562961722020-01-25T17:38:38.790-05:002020-01-25T17:38:38.790-05:00We all make mistakes, it's part of being human...We all make mistakes, it's part of being human. The only ones who believe themselves perfect in this country are the Republicans and the Evangelicals, of course they also want to turn back time to the 1950's and 60' so they can judge you severely and lock you upDave Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10429379083970699093noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-3087360413366892372020-01-25T16:24:52.294-05:002020-01-25T16:24:52.294-05:00Ahh the what-if club. Lifetime member here. Growin...Ahh the what-if club. Lifetime member here. Growing up in a catholic family of six boys, four of whom were really into sports, I didn’t know what to do about my attraction to boys. This was the 70s and we had the tight polyester pants in all the catalogs. It was my deep dark secret what I was doing with the catalogs in the bathroom. <br /><br />How would things have been different for me if I had addressed those feelings in my teens/20s instead of having my first m/m experience in my 40s? We can’t judge our decisions back then. We have to believe we did the best we could. Accept that and the paths we’re on. Like you said, we have scores more life experience. And we’re better for it. HuntleyBiGuyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06027495033744126551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-32246712815632615802020-01-25T14:34:36.705-05:002020-01-25T14:34:36.705-05:00I try hard not to dwell on the past and think the ...I try hard not to dwell on the past and think the 'What ifs,' because then you're stuck and you'll never move on.<br />Learn from the past, yes; remember it, yes; and then you won't make those mistakes again.<br />But I lived there once and have no desire to return.Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15302478126147924237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-6965848131258469492020-01-25T13:34:37.847-05:002020-01-25T13:34:37.847-05:00I remember being hunted right to the bed.I remember being hunted right to the bed.Jimmyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06497874766764411664noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-43199647695327312682020-01-25T13:12:17.787-05:002020-01-25T13:12:17.787-05:00Ooooh, another Maddie sighting! This is so much b...Ooooh, another Maddie sighting! This is so much better than Sask..Sasqu...uh, Bigfoot!Deedleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17220174067034720943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-22372226125840255212020-01-25T12:57:14.007-05:002020-01-25T12:57:14.007-05:00We can't change the past, but can change and l...We can't change the past, but can change and live for the future. Besides, I was 16 when I had sex with a guy first...scared the hell out of me.<br /><br />Now as Deedles wanted to say.... shut up and go mop a floor tootes!Mistress Maddiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02098940220513091207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-63341777863667834752020-01-25T12:44:00.213-05:002020-01-25T12:44:00.213-05:00Awww, sniff! Because you are being so wonderfully ...Awww, sniff! Because you are being so wonderfully honest and introspective, I've decided to be nice and not tell you to shut up and mop a floor. Learn from looking behind, but keep the past in the past. Push forward, you little lovable stinker.Deedleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17220174067034720943noreply@blogger.com