tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post5195885521754908543..comments2024-02-24T15:33:47.064-05:00Comments on Sooo-this-is-me: #I don't know.Sooo-this-is-mehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-9757007766308091332019-05-19T14:09:29.387-04:002019-05-19T14:09:29.387-04:00Michael, correct and that's why I say that I j...Michael, correct and that's why I say that I just don't know anymore, people are crazy. I can't help think back to the bad old days when stuff like this happened. No DNA or cameras to help support the person telling the truth.Sooo-this-is-mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-44600337758575802952019-05-18T12:33:58.616-04:002019-05-18T12:33:58.616-04:00This is a hard one. There are two sides to every ...This is a hard one. There are two sides to every story. Sometimes the most innocent of men are indeed guilty and then again, some are wrongly accused. Michaelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12490988837607883653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-72355103668757599662019-05-16T22:44:13.309-04:002019-05-16T22:44:13.309-04:00Old Lurker, I was also wondering why the woman wou...Old Lurker, I was also wondering why the woman would say that if it wasn't true, she would have burned any bridge to a future interview for a different position. However I witnessed a woman go to HR and complain about a supervisor hitting on her constantly and that she was afraid of having to deal with him. Later that same day she was in his office trying to worm her way into a barbeque that he was having that weekend. I don't think she was too scared, I know I usually stay away from people that make me uncomfortable, not try to get invited to their house.Sooo-this-is-mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-72858737201082282052019-05-16T22:36:05.945-04:002019-05-16T22:36:05.945-04:00Richard, sometimes the church men are the worst. I...Richard, sometimes the church men are the worst. I think they feel that going to church gives them a free pass at being a pig.Sooo-this-is-mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-40990286017860698022019-05-16T22:34:25.190-04:002019-05-16T22:34:25.190-04:00Bob, nothing surprises me anymore.Bob, nothing surprises me anymore.Sooo-this-is-mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-23698105427819084152019-05-16T22:33:07.298-04:002019-05-16T22:33:07.298-04:00Debra, well I was raised Catholic so...
I unfortu...Debra, well I was raised Catholic so... <br />I unfortunately have witnessed both, men that I thought were good, revealing that they are creeps and women that loved drama so much that they created it, only to laugh about it, after being caught lying.Sooo-this-is-mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-15717898675313259782019-05-16T22:28:55.690-04:002019-05-16T22:28:55.690-04:00Sixpence, a job interview is something that I neve...Sixpence, a job interview is something that I never even thought about being sexual. Crazy world we are in but I guess it's always been that way only now people are speaking out.Sooo-this-is-mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02001864616415319712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-35293385697161783552019-05-16T14:42:48.097-04:002019-05-16T14:42:48.097-04:00We penis-bearers worry a lot about false accusatio...We penis-bearers worry a lot about false accusations, but for the moment they are still rare. What would this woman have to gain with a false accusation? Retribution? It seems like a high price to pay. But as always Debra is correct. <br /><br />I always thought I was safe from false accusations because I am repulsive and fat, but lately I have realized that maybe this makes me more suspect, not less. At one former job I often consulted with people significantly younger than me, and I thought nothing of having one-on-one consultations with the door closed for privacy. I had a coworker who was young and fit and (apparently) handsome, and he said he never has the door closed during his consultations because he is wary of false accusations. Now I am torn (but fortunately I was let go from that job, so maybe it does not matter.) <br /><br />This is a heavy topic. It is probably good that we are in this transition, but it is difficult for me. <br /><br />I worry about how different communities have different community standards, which is one reason I want to compartmentalize. What would happen to me if some of the salacious things I write about Maddie were to become public? But that is just more hand-wringing hypotheticals, when real people are ACTUALLY being harassed and assaulted every day. Old Lurkerhttps://oldlurker974.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-21415592666792369262019-05-16T09:48:52.476-04:002019-05-16T09:48:52.476-04:00I worked with a fifty-something man who always tal...I worked with a fifty-something man who always talked about his church. He played a very active role. He and his wife adopted three children. They did church camp, church recruitment, and fundraising. A new female employee asked me to be her mentor because she didn't feel comfortable with the church man. I agreed to mentor her. A few weeks later, church man was fired for inappropriate behavior. He held and tried to kiss a young woman who stayed late to finish a floor plan drawing for him. The woman I was mentoring then told me church man kept putting his hand on her upper thigh when he was sitting next to her. Everyone was shocked when church man was fired. Richardnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-79082935015848870612019-05-16T07:52:49.524-04:002019-05-16T07:52:49.524-04:00It's a hard choice on which side to fall.
Whil...It's a hard choice on which side to fall.<br />While I tend to believe the women, sometimes ....<br /><br />Bobhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15302478126147924237noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-81639684099067935882019-05-16T07:42:56.484-04:002019-05-16T07:42:56.484-04:00There's always two sides to every story so you...There's always two sides to every story so you're wise not to jump to conclusions. The nicest looking and acting men can be creepy predators in private. I worked for years with a sweet, smart, well-educated guy who turned out to be a pedophile. You just never know.Debra She Who Seekshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01845703092794695023noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-167118023573797856.post-50384800449252595222019-05-16T07:18:34.904-04:002019-05-16T07:18:34.904-04:00Oh my.
That’s a tough one. I think it was mostly ...Oh my. <br />That’s a tough one. I think it was mostly a HR mistake. Job interviews should always have at least two people present in order to avoid this kind of situation. Preferably somebody of the opposite gender. <br />People has surprised me in the past, too. But when it comes to he said/she said the waters get murky.<br /><br />XoXo <br /><br />P.S. I’m going to be waiting for your hot men of yore post! 😎Sixpence Notthewiserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11230453585589265578noreply@blogger.com